kinesis Posted October 10, 2007 Posted October 10, 2007 there is this really amazingly beautiful girl that i ran into at work a week ago, she kept looking at me, making her presence known to me(inserting herself in my environment, hard to explain), her pupils would dialate when she looked at me, i am just so incredibly shy and also i was in total disbelief, awe, and shock that a girl this beautiful could be interested in me - thus - i didnt ask her out when i had the chance. i alwyas thought instinctively deep down inside that if something was too good to be true it usually is, but I ache soooo much from the regret of not talking to her, she was so incredibly beautiful. I feel like im going through opioid withdrawals... im hoping my greatest she doesnt forget about me and move on and im hoping she will be there when we return (just in case she isnt i got a nice card that says 'thinking ofyou' and was gonna put my # on it) anyways any ideas on how i can break the ice and get her # if in fact she is there in 2 weeks when we return? I was thinking small conversation like 'hi' 'how are you' 'you like nice today' then as a joke throw in' you looked nice last time also haha' or something like that i am totally new to this and unexperienced and I really really like this girl, like not obsession like but this is the kind of girl you would want to take it extremely slow and snails pace with cuz i would want to keep her for a long long time if not indefinately... to me its very exciting i never had a girl this beautiful and it would be a real honor and priviledge to make her my queen any way i could... so yeah i just need to get down to basics here... in case she isnt there imma just leave her a nice card since i know she likes me anyways. the card is nonthreatening/nonemotional just says 'thinking of you and wanted you to know' then ill write my # and say 'sorry im really shy & i didnt talk to you when i had the chance would you please call me?' or something similar... the card is just a backup plan in case she isnt there to talk to, theres a chance she might not show up when we do. like i said i want to come off totally natural and non-attached or or clingy.. thats why i chose such a basic simple card to give her.. 'thinking of you' is in no way too emo or scary, its actually kind of cute.. i asked a few girls they thought it was cute too and they said themselves if they liked me they would call me. its real important to me so people please help me out!!! i been single for like 7+ years now and i think im LONG overdue and i especially think i have earned such a beautiful gf through hard work, trials, and tribs so it makes total sense that this is a blessing and i need to do what i can to claim her!!! any advice appreciated thanks
Pentula77 Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 Dude, throw the card away, you need to ask her face to face for her number (how else will she know who you are ?)....personally she'll see the card as cute but wimpy (a shield of rejection). You have to have the confidence and courage to ask her straight out. Also realise that your fixation on this girl is coming from a place of fear and will most likely drive her away. So you need to relax a little and understand that if things don't work out that's fine. Whatever happens good or bad you are gaining experience with women which is a good thing as women are worth getting to know. Do you work with this girl on a daily basis ? if so forget about her and do nothing until she asks you out....just my opinion on coworkers, If you don't work with her then seek her out and go for the number. Just say hey, you seem interesting, what's is your number. She'll know what you mean. You dont have to ask her out then and there just ask her for the number.... Remember action not words will get you where you want to be. If you want to know some places to get further advice send me a PM. Cheers
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