ninjaturtles Posted October 10, 2007 Posted October 10, 2007 My boyfriend and I split a month back. We were together for 5 months or thereabout, yes not very long as i have been in much longer relationships, but trust me i believed this was the start of something special. I am 21 years and he is 21 as well. We cared about eachother so much or so i thought. We had a friendship aside from our relationship,, i trusted him and he seemed to value me so much. We indulged in sexual intercourse, he was my 2nd and for this reason i feel so attached to him. I cant believe he would leave me like this and behave as though i was so insignificant. He works in newcastle, and I am in reading(uk). He is on a placement there for a year, we had already made plans to be with eachother etc. Anyway he has not contacted me since the breakup. I wanted to write him a letter, telling him about how much pain i feel, and how much i trusted him . I gave myself to him, cooked for him, loved him. I did with him, things i was not wiling to do in previous relationships. I am not trying to win him back, i just want to post to him this letter and tell him i am moving on.maybe i should send my photo as well for keeps? But i am moving on..I just want him to know how i feel as although he knows i did not want the breakup, i did not show too much emotion regarding the way he hurt me. Pls dont tell me to write it and burn it. opinions plss. Thank you so much. Sally
sedgwick Posted October 10, 2007 Posted October 10, 2007 I promise you that the only thing sending a letter could do is undermine your self-esteem. I've done it and it NEVER works. The absolute best thing you can do is move on with your life and let him see that's what you're doing. If you don't contact him, I can almost promise you he'll look you up at some point, and you'll still have your dignity rather than having something to be embarrassed about. If you still really really want to write him, go ahead and write it, BUT make yourself wait one week to send it. Don't read it during that week. At the end of the week, read it, and if you REALLY think it's the best thing to do, send it. But if you can wait another week, try doing so, and then read it again, make the decision again, etc. Give yourself a LOT of time to think this through; don't let yourself act on impulse. I know it's really hard, it sucks!!!! I'm going through the same thing. But I feel a lot better knowing that I didn't chase him. At least I can have some pride in myself, and that means a lot right now.
Author ninjaturtles Posted October 10, 2007 Author Posted October 10, 2007 Thank you so much..its like you know me..i act a lot on impulse...thank you so much..i will do what you said. i didnt beg him either....you know, at least we have something to be proud of....in the long run we will look back and smile. Stay strong..will keep reading these threads.xx
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