john 07 Posted October 10, 2007 Posted October 10, 2007 So im back in the game and have been trying to meet women here an there. Its my last year of college so I want to have some fun. The bigest problem i find myself running into is things to talk about with girls. I ususally talk about their major,school related stuff, jobs, favorites, recent trips. Sometimes I feel like im just asking way to many questions(I just dont want silence and i also want to learn about the girl) and wonder if the girl is getting annoyed. Sometimes I get the awkward silence and I hate that. what are somethings I can talk about the ladies. How do I avoid silence. Also, When I talk to ppl in general I like to look them in the eye. I listen better this way and get into the convo. When i do this to girls, many times they seem like they get scared. I don stare, i ocasionally look at their lips, hair, ears, the wall, others around, but for the most part I like to look at them in the eye during the convo. I had quite a few girls saying they like it when guy look at them in the eye. One friend actually told me her heart starts to beat faster but she likes the suspense. lol. Do most girls like it when guys look to their eyes during convo?? Am I suppose to get offended when they keep looking away?
Phateless Posted October 10, 2007 Posted October 10, 2007 everybody talks to them about school. talk about whatever, but occasionally throw in a little teasing/flirting. gently making fun of them will get you everywhere... you'd be surprised.
Trialbyfire Posted October 10, 2007 Posted October 10, 2007 You shouldn't always have to drive the conversation topic by asking questions. Let the girl do her part. If she's interested, she should be asking questions about you, too. Don't you want a good conversationalist? This is a good test of whether she can keep up her end. It will also give you a better understanding about what she considers important, by the questions she asks you or the topics she introduces. Relax and enjoy it. If you relax, it will help the girl relax. Tease and flirt with her. Romance her.
Darkzen Posted October 10, 2007 Posted October 10, 2007 They only like it when you give excessive eye contact if they're into you... otherwise it creeps them out. As for talking, play it cool. It will drive her crazy if you don't show a lot of interest. Don't be aggressive until they give you the right signs, otherwise most girls will know that you like them and move on to a more challenging guy. People want what they can't have. Being an open book is a bad thing. When I was your age, I used to have women flocking to me. I was the silent and mysterious type, it drove women crazy. They have this ego thing, 99% of guys are chasing them... when you don't chase like the rest, it sets you apart, peaking their interest. I'm a handsome man, but far from gorgeous... what sets me apart is the mystery. As well as the fact that they're interested in why I'm not chasing them like all the other guys. Oh, you have to be confident (or at least exude confidence) or this doesn't work either. If you lack confidence and don't approach, then you're just a loser that they're not interested in to begin with. Don't completely ignore them, but don't show them much attention either, just enough to keep them guessing. It works like a charm. P.S. you have to consider your level of attractiveness into this as well, you're not going to interest women out of your league. Regardless of what you do (unless of course you have lots of money).
Fancee Posted October 10, 2007 Posted October 10, 2007 Darkzen is giving you some very good advice. He is so-so right about the eye contact thing. He is right if the girl is nice looking, yes they all chasing. Something different mysterious works, probably something else works to. I couldn't answer that. You will work out alright if you kept trying and get the practice. With a friend like Darkzen you can't loose with the stuff he use. You will be alright. One thing about it- all you got to do is nail the one woman that you will keep forever.
Author john 07 Posted October 10, 2007 Author Posted October 10, 2007 Darkzen, good info. keep em comming. But specifically how do you keep yourself mysterious??
Cobra_X30 Posted October 10, 2007 Posted October 10, 2007 Darkzen, good info. keep em comming. But specifically how do you keep yourself mysterious?? By not talking about yourself too much. By listening more than you talk in general. Make sure you show some interest in the girl. Flattery will get you everywhere!
Darkzen Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 Darkzen, good info. keep em comming. But specifically how do you keep yourself mysterious?? By not being an open book or easily readable. Make them wonder about what makes you tick. My style alone got me plenty of interest. Bull-ring, leather bracer on one arm, baggy jeans, tight T-shirt, stuffed animal hanging out of my pocket, tall, dark, handsome, etc... I had such a wide array of different styles meshed into one look, people didn't know what to make of me. Part preppy, part thug, part biker, part goth, part freak, part GI. Basically be unlike everyone else... but don't be like everyone else trying to be unlike everyone else. As for attitude, be confident in how you carry yourself (not arrogant though). If you have a nice body, flaunt it a little (don't be obnoxious). Give some signs that you might be interested and let them come to you. Like making eye contact (maybe a little smile) here and there, from across the room. When they approach, let them do most of the talking, don't seem eager or talk too much (enough to keep the conversation going along). Keep them wanting to know more, but show enough interest that they think that you're interested (just unsure of how much). This will set you apart from the crowd. Women want nothing more than a challenge, it's very mysterious to them when you're not chasing them like most guys are. First impressions are the most important. Once they're wondering and interested, then you can begin opening up as things progress, letting them know who you are. Take your time and enjoy the dating process, don't be in a rush to completely open yourself up. I haven't dated a ton (because I was in a 9 year relationship), but every date I've gone on, the girl has been head over heels for me the first night. I took one girl on a date and she made me a tape of love songs and brought her best friend to meet me the next time I saw her. Another date (my ex), we stayed out until 5 am and went all over NYC doing all types of craziness (she called me the next morning from work to schedule our next date). Another trick is to not go for the kiss on the first date, give a hug (no matter what the chemistry is like) and make sure they get inside safely. One thing that seemed to work terrific for me was not done on purpose, but I got lost driving around with a couple dates (I never drove in NYC before, was on leave from the Army and visiting). They really seemed to like that for some reason that I'll never understand. Overall, I guess it comes down to being yourself, minus the eagerness/excitement. Play things cool and let them unfold, doing just enough to help things go smoothly. Stick out a little from the crowd, in appearance and attitude. Try to keep them wanting more and guessing. Hope that helps.
peace_pipe Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 Tell her how much you enjoy porn, video games and beer. That's certain to get some conversation going.
peace_pipe Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 Romance her. Make her romance you. How? Don't call everyday, be unavailable and distant at times. Do not show to much interest right away, that is a sign of weakness to a woman. Talk about other women at times, and make sure you are dating at least one other woman. She'll love you forever.
hot1234 Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 Tell her how much you enjoy porn, video games and beer. That's certain to get some conversation going.And dont forget to add that you are a jedi knight that always gets me all spunked up!
peace_pipe Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 And dont forget to add that you are a jedi knight that always gets me all spunked up! Princess Lea gets me all spunked up. Any ladies for some role play?
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