Mylife Posted October 10, 2007 Posted October 10, 2007 Hey there I am 18 years old right now and have been going out with my bf (20) for about 3 months now. At first it was all great we really loved eachother and stuff and like we were like best best friends b4 we started liking eachother. For like the first month and a half it was awsome and since it was my first relationship I was pretty happy about it. But lately, i am not sure what happened...it just seemed to slowly die out from his side, he became less romantic, didnt meet as much, and when i tried to be the same as we used to be, he says i am too clingy. And it just got worse and worse (my clinginess/need for his attention) and he just couldnt stand it anymore i guess. And it wasn't too normal, the talks on the phone, the occasional times that we would meet and all, they were all like awkward and just not normal at all. Then few days back when I went to see him, (while things were not normal and me and him knew that the other was upset) he just said that it is not working out anymore and that he wants me as a friend, and when i asked y does he feel that its not working out...first he said that he doesnt know. Then i finally got it out of him and he thinks i am a little immature for my age and that i am not practical about important decisions in life. And in a way that is true, i go more for what i want rather than what i should be doing and have made really big mistakes because of that. Well anyways...I was pretty upset and he gave me a hug and was really sweet and said that he really wanted to be friends with me and that he still really cared for me and everything. But i told him tht i didnt want friendship...i want to be with him cuz i really do love him and i asked him to give me another chance to mebbe be a bit better/normal in the relationship. After a bit of pressuring he agreed and for the time everything seemed fine. For the most part its ok right now, but i dunno y i just feel that its not the same on the phn, but it could be because all weekend i was really busy and he had an exam to study for and all, so we couldnt really talk that much. But i just want it back like it used to be in the begining, and i am really not sure how to do that. I am still alittle upset as well about what happend a few days back, but i really do want it to work out and want him to be satisfied and happy with me. Any suggestions?? I apologise for the long post, but i just had to let out my feelings somewhere, didnt know where to turn to. Thanks
alwayshurt Posted October 10, 2007 Posted October 10, 2007 Darling, you're so young and you shouldn't be worring about this. I know it is hard but trust me you have (and need) plenty of experinces to make before landing on the right person. Remember that your perceptions always give you hints so you are probably right when you say that this guy is not the same anymore. Try to talk to him and if you feel some distance or that something has changed be the one to break up and keep NC. If it is meant to be he wil come back because he misses you. Honestly, you don't see it right now but you've been given the gift of freedom and at your age is a blessing. Never waste your time with somebody that does not deserve you. Read posts here and you'll see what I mean. Anyway....good luck
Author Mylife Posted October 10, 2007 Author Posted October 10, 2007 Hey, yeh I am thinking of going ang giving him a surprise tmrw to meet him and see how that works, mebbe then i'll talk to him about things a bit. Um but one thing...its kinda funny...hehe...i hve no idea what NC means...:S...lol.
alwayshurt Posted October 10, 2007 Posted October 10, 2007 no contact. You need to just disappear from him.
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