Brooks06 Posted October 10, 2007 Posted October 10, 2007 So its been a couple of weeks since me and my girlfriend of three years split...I still haven't heard from her other than a random text saying "just give me space and time." Its been so hard, but luckily I have family in town to fall back on. Speaking of family, she talked to both my brother and my sister. My sister just called her and asked her how she was doing and she told her its been really really hard on her and she is all for things circling back around if its meant to be...she told her she knows ive been struggling and that she wanted me to know that she is stuggling as well. When my sister told me this it kind of raised more questions than it answered, but at least I knew she is human and is having trouble with this as well. But this is where it gets tricky and this is where I need some advice...Her and my younger brother have always been pretty close and have a decent relationship and she asked him how I was doing... She told him she just needs space and that she is too busy and too stressed to worry about me. She said she wants me to figure out how to be happy without her and to learn to do things on my own and to not put so much pressure on her. She also said she doesnt want to pick this back up anytime soon but said she still loves me and always will and that she is still going to go to my college next year so if I decide not to transfer out, shell be there. She just said talking to me right now would add to her stress, make things forced, and would make things worse. Last night she talked to my brother again but my brother kind of got pissed at her for just leaving me like that without any type of explanation...he said she stopped talking and told him to tell me that she "loves me always and forever." Today I broke my no contact and sent her a long email just asking how her family is doing an telling her I hope she is happy and figures things out and that I know we are meant to be together and one day we will be. I know I shouldnt have said anything, but I couldnt help it...still no response, i know its too soon...I guess my real question for everyone is what do I do from here? Do I go get involved with other activities and just wait for her to show up one day? Do I try dating other people? I really dont know what to think of her comments to my brother. If she still loves me I dont understand why she hasnt even checked on me and is being so cold. She knows im weak when it comes to not being with her. Im not a whimp or anything, I have a lot of pride in myself, I am an amateur boxer and am pretty well known locally, but she knows I am incomplete without her. Any advice on what to do from here is greatly appreciated and if anything changes ill let you guys know.
tomwiz Posted October 10, 2007 Posted October 10, 2007 your situation is pretty similiar to mine, your relationship is not necessarly completely dead, just kinda circling the drain. I was given the "pressure" and happy on my own speeches too. I too was led on by my SO, telling me things that i took to heart and now no contact for about 5 days since she said them. I guess the only thing we can do is to just try to move on, get over it, however be receptive to having another shot if its worth it. Best of luck
Chrome Barracuda Posted October 10, 2007 Posted October 10, 2007 B*itch please. She acts like she's jesus and your lost sheep without her. She left not because your weak. She left because she wanted to!!! Leave her alone and focus on your future. She couldnt stick around when it got too serious, then what does that tell you. She isnt ready for commitment. and she thinks it's all one big game! Forget her, move on and entertain other chicks. Trust me you'll be better off than to be with her. She sounds like she's toying with you. She needs to respect your gansta. and you need to grow a pair. mourn the loss of this relationship, chalk it up to immaturity and move on!!!
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