LoveLace Posted October 9, 2007 Posted October 9, 2007 Have you ever told your SO you should "take a break" or been told this by your SO? Me and my BF decided to do this, which is ok with me, I was curious of others' experience with this phrase. It makes me think of Rachel and Ross on "Friends"....when his excuse for sleeping with someone else was "We were on a break!!"... So what happened when it was your scenario? Which applies to you: 1) We took a break and it was exactly what we needed. 2) In the end, all it meant was an easier way to "break up"....it sounded better... And what about rules? Should they be established by the 2 people, or should they be common knowledge? In my eyes, I'm free to date other guys if so presentable...and I'm just assuming my BF can do the same...but we haven't dated all that long to begin with....so longevity of the relationship might be a factor in this too....like if we'd been dating for a couple years or so, I don't know that I'd want a "break" to mean you could see other people....but in my case I think it's ok... Fire away...
oppath Posted October 9, 2007 Posted October 9, 2007 Your situation is a little unique, but in general, it wouldn't matter if I had been committed to someone for 2 weeks, 2 months, or 2 years: if they broke up wtih me and wanted to pursue other people on that break, it would be over. If the break was "I'm going through some **** right now and feel I need a little space to do it on my own" then MAYBE I'd be ok with it, however, I wouldn't classify it as a break. If a girl explained how and why she was stressed, and how she felt a little space would benefit, I might say "ok." I would not want it defined as a break. I'd want it defined as "this is what I think I need right now, but I expect that to change in a week or two. Are you ok with giving me what I need?"
datingmum Posted October 9, 2007 Posted October 9, 2007 It could be that either: 1. He has serious feelings for you that scare him 2. He has feelings for you, but something is wrong in the workings of the relationship 3. He's met someone else 4. He wants to break up gently Only time will tell. You are welcome to do what you like. Date, you don't have to jump into bed with anyone, but why not enjoy your time if someone asks?
tomwiz Posted October 10, 2007 Posted October 10, 2007 Breaks where the rules allow the seeing of other people seldom work out. If its an exclusive break to truly do some soul searching and some deep thought, it may work, however if its just to see what else is out there, the relationship should just end. Grass is always greener.
peter333 Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 I'm sorry but don't think i can help u with this topic. I have read some of your other post and i think that you have some really good advice, please could you help me with 'Friend Zone' . Please peter333
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