InLoveWithYou Posted October 9, 2007 Posted October 9, 2007 Hey everyone, how's it going? Anyway, I have a really confusing situation that I don't quite understand what to do. But first, I'll tell you how things began; there was this girl that I found really attractive at school. My friend ended up telling her about what I thought about her a while ago. And this one time, about a week or 2 after he told her, he was talking to her again and she brought the topic up out of the blue asking whether or not what I thought about her was true. I've found her attractive for about half a year before she found out but I never really considered pursuing her. With her asking about me, I thought she was kind of interested as well so this is where I really began to try and go after her. I'm a really shy guy so I never spoke to her in person but we spoke in every other way possible including MSN, MySpace, email and the phone. We would say 'Hi' to each other whenever we walked past each other at school but never had a proper conversation. So this one time, I decide to ask her if she wanted to go do something over the holidays. She agreed but unfortunately she broke her ankle the night before our 'date'. This put her on crutches for the following 6-8 weeks whereby causing our date to be postponed because she continuously made excuses not to go yet, saying she felt really stupid on crutches. So when she finally got off her crutches, I decided to ask her again. However, she didn't reply to my first few texts. Later on, I find out that one of my really close friends is interested in her again (he knew that I liked her as well). My friend and this girl also liked each other last year for a while but nothing ever happened but are now really close friends. So I was really angry that he would try and pursue her after knowing how I felt and since, we haven't been friends cause we've been kind of fighting. With things going the way they were, I thought I would finally decide to just forget about her and move on. However, come the next holiday break, I didn't want to walk away from this without finding out whether or not she was really interested me. So I decide to text her one last time and we finally set a time and date for us. We went to movies together and we had a good time. I come on MSN when I get home, and my friend (the one that also likes her) starts talking **** to me and asking me about our date. So I'm confused to as how he knows about it and I start asking her about it. Ever since he has been interested in her, it seemed like she kind of expressed some interest towards him also. So I thought her telling him about everything was as if she was giving him reassurrance that nothing has happened between her and myself. I felt a bit upset and angry so I ask her whether she is keen on him and everything. She said that she didn't know because of what happened last time they liked each other and so on. So I'm really angry and tell her that I think I should stay away for a bit while the situation cools off a bit (cause I was angry) After thinking about it for a while, I felt that I kind of overreacted to the situation and I texted her to see if she wanted to go get some dinner. She never replied to me so I'm really upset and everything. Finally, I decide to message her and apologise to her about how I reacted the previous night and told her that I thought that we shouldn't let my other friend get in the way of us. She said that she is scared that she'll ruin things even more between my friend and I so she thinks she should stay away. I continued to try and talk to her on MSN and stuff but she hasn't been really talking to me. Finally, I write a email to her expressing how I feel about her. I said that if she really likes my other friend, she should just go for it because I didn't want to stand in the way of her chance at happiness etc and that I'd eventually get over it if she chose him over me and vice-versa. I also asked her to tell me how she feels about me so I know where I stand. She replied back to me and said that she doesn't like my friend, but he thinks that there is something there and she is trying to figure out what to say to him, but she doesn't want to hurt his feelings. She also said she really had fun with me at the movies but now feels bad for choosing whether to go with either my friend or myself and just can't do it. However, she still hasn't told me about how she feels about me. So that's the minor details of my situation and I don't know what to do? I don't know whether or not shes saying "Thanks but no thanks" or what? Is there anyway for me to convince her to go out with me even though she is hesistant over the fact of hurting my friend? If anyone wants to see what her replies consisted of for a better judgement - I can post it. Thanks
Krytie TV Posted October 9, 2007 Posted October 9, 2007 She just sounds a little immature is all. I would say her waffling on the subject of your friend is a good sign that whatever she is really feeling, you may just want to count your losses. You've tried, and she doesn't seem very forthcoming. One of the first lessons to learn is that it's better to walk away early than to pursue someone whose attention is ungettable. At this point it sounds like it's easy for you to just let her go. I suggest you do that. Unreciprocated attraction is never a good situation to put yourself in.
Author InLoveWithYou Posted October 9, 2007 Author Posted October 9, 2007 I don't know if its 'unreciprocated' though? I mean, trust me, I've thought about walking away more than 5 times! But everytime I don't talk to her for a few days to a week - she messages or emails me? I don't know aye, I guess you're right. I've always had the thought in the back of my mind that she was playing me :| It's just that I'm dateless for the formal - which is in two weeks - and she said she would go with me. But I don't know how I'm going to sort all this out. Thanks for the reply though. Other opinions are still welcome!
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