Art_Critic Posted October 10, 2007 Posted October 10, 2007 Good lord, yeah keep that crap off my threads. How come Tony didn't pull that stuff off this thread? I've gotten pulled for non-offensive off topic things. Sorry AW.. I was making a joke from a TP post and someone posted something serious.. So I guess I started it... but I was only cracking a joke.. I had no idea it would be taken seriously..
oppath Posted October 10, 2007 Posted October 10, 2007 Tsk, tsk...boys and their toys... I do have toys. I'll reveal them in another post I thought it was ON topic, the point being don't contact your ex, hide/throw out stuff that reminds you of them, and don't hold on to sexual fantasies of them.
Trialbyfire Posted October 10, 2007 Posted October 10, 2007 I do have toys. I'll reveal them in another post I thought it was ON topic, the point being don't contact your ex, hide/throw out stuff that reminds you of them, and don't hold on to sexual fantasies of them. Oh? Should I be afraid?
oppath Posted October 10, 2007 Posted October 10, 2007 Oh? Should I be afraid? Yes, actually, an 18" double ended dildo can make quite the mushroom imprint on your face when it's being twirled around like a helicopter. That might strike some fear in you. Sadly, that's all I've ever used it for, though I don't mind if I keep it that way .
Trialbyfire Posted October 10, 2007 Posted October 10, 2007 Yes, actually, an 18" double ended dildo can make quite the mushroom imprint on your face when it's being twirled around like a helicopter. That might strike some fear in you. Sadly, that's all I've ever used it for, though I don't mind if I keep it that way . You're one scary dude. Put the toy down, step up to the podium and speak clearly into the mike. "I promise not to pull that thing out again, I promise not to pull that thing out again".
oppath Posted October 10, 2007 Posted October 10, 2007 Controlling already? I don't even know you. I can make no such promises , though for the sake of ariawoman, I will refrain from trying to fly like a helicopter on future posts.
Author AriaIncognito Posted October 10, 2007 Author Posted October 10, 2007 That reasoning is a stretch as to why that portion of this thread was on topic but ok lol. I'd appreciate more comments on the original topic, however, for those of you that can weed through the other stuff.
kirikat Posted October 10, 2007 Posted October 10, 2007 :love:oh god oh god oh god. I read this post yesterday.... and I accidently did the same thing (while snooping!!!!) on myspace. I just sent him a invite, and all I was trying to do was to ,,,,, oh never mind.
Ssheena Posted October 10, 2007 Posted October 10, 2007 Aria, Do you have a seperate band myspace and then yours as well? Is he a friend on your page and not on the band one if this is the case? I'm guessing he isn't/hasn't even thought about it. It is a lot easier to say than to do - the whole not looking at their myspace pages. At least when I wrote my x the email and finally got a response it was pretty clear. Rejecting my friendship and saying he is in a "serious relationship". I have to admit to accidentally sending him an invite from my fake myspace page as well, that button is tricky. I'm sure he has told his friends I am stalking him - a lot of them are now set to private. He's really not that important to me anymore. His loss Aria.
madgun68 Posted October 10, 2007 Posted October 10, 2007 Hi Aria, First of all, I think he knows about the band now.. So that much was accomplished. If neither of you have been willing to speak to the other, then I really can't see him being willing to accept the friend request. I don't think I'd really be able to separate you from the band.. The band would just be a reminder of you and how things currently stand. Personally, I think if a person wants to contact the other, even if in just a small way, this is not a good method to go about it. I doubt it would be considered much different than receiving an invite from you out of the blue.
Author AriaIncognito Posted October 10, 2007 Author Posted October 10, 2007 Aria, Do you have a seperate band myspace and then yours as well? Is he a friend on your page and not on the band one if this is the case? I'm guessing he isn't/hasn't even thought about it. It is a lot easier to say than to do - the whole not looking at their myspace pages. At least when I wrote my x the email and finally got a response it was pretty clear. Rejecting my friendship and saying he is in a "serious relationship". I have to admit to accidentally sending him an invite from my fake myspace page as well, that button is tricky. I'm sure he has told his friends I am stalking him - a lot of them are now set to private. He's really not that important to me anymore. His loss Aria. Yes, he has me listed on his page as a friend and I've not deleted him from my page as of yet because well I dont have him on the front page so unless i seek him out i dont see him there anyway. He's a software developer, so I know he's not dumb and could figure out how to delete me from his friends list should he want to. I wasn't contacting him in order to start anything up. He's toxic to me. And well maybe he knows that and is staying away for my sake. Who knows, the only person that knows is him and he was never good at talking about how he felt. I'm not sitting around wondering why he didn't accept the invite, I just would have thought he'd add it since he was always so big about keeping in contact with past girlfriends. (not that i think that's a good thing mind you). If he's currently with someone maybe he's not allowed to talk to exes, who even knows. I shouldn't care, and in time, I won't. I care less and less as I heal. I'm a heck of a lot stronger now than 4 months ago.
Author AriaIncognito Posted October 10, 2007 Author Posted October 10, 2007 Hi Aria, First of all, I think he knows about the band now.. So that much was accomplished. If neither of you have been willing to speak to the other, then I really can't see him being willing to accept the friend request. I don't think I'd really be able to separate you from the band.. The band would just be a reminder of you and how things currently stand. Personally, I think if a person wants to contact the other, even if in just a small way, this is not a good method to go about it. I doubt it would be considered much different than receiving an invite from you out of the blue. I'm not sure if there's a question of willingness or not here. I haven't reached out to him because I know if I do, I'll only hurt myself. He hasn't contacted me and I can assume the reason is because he's with someone. Though actually every time in the past we went NC, i was always the one to break it. He never really did aside from a time he showed up at a concert I was attending and then we ended up together for a few weeks. Anyway.... I'm not sure about the band being a reminder of anything being an issue for him. He wasn't the one to get hurt here, I was. Maybe he doesn't want to be reminded of me because he feels guilt over what he did, sure, that's possible. BUt i'm not sure that he has any ill will towards me or even would care if i were to pick up the phone and call him today. If i were to do that, he'd probably talk to me for hours. This is why I dont do that. Because that will lead me right back to where I was, which is not where I need to be anymore. I want someone 100%, not 20%.
starlite Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 That damn website. I am telling ya it causes more stress than it is worth. Myspace was a problem between my ex and I so we both deleted it, (although he was the one doing wrong, not me). So anyway, we broke up and I made one. He told me he still didnt want one. Well today I come into work and in my email (yahoo) is a message saying i have a friend request from him. (Or someone with the same name). I plan on rejecting it. I think he just wanted me to know he has a page. I am also going to make my page private. I cant have his life in my face right now. I am not even acceptin requests from his friends cause, well, I am still sad and dont need it. I hope i can keep myself from checking his page!!!! Dumb!
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