lostinatrance Posted October 8, 2007 Posted October 8, 2007 I've been with my boyfriend for a little over 8 months now and we're doing really well, only I often get really jealous of this girl he's friends with. He's liked this girl since before we started going out but he's always liked me and has known me like 7 months longer than he's known her so he asked me out, not her, but they're still friends. They've started talking a lot more recently though and I know she likes him, I'm normally not worried about him cheating but when it comes to this girl, I am. Also, this girl is like me in MANY ways and my boyfriend likes to bring up things she does or says that are things I do or say frequently, which honestly just makes me get more worried because if she's a lot like me, the chances of him liking her as much as he likes me are higher. Well he went to her house for the first time today and they're still hanging out (it's 7:30) and I just texted him asking if he's still at her house and if he is then to text me when he leaves so I can call him because I want to talk to him without her being there, and he said he's still there and he'll probably leave around 9. The fact that he's hanging out with her that long scares me. I don't know if I'm overreacting but he just talks about her a lot and I'm just really scared that he's going to cheat on me with her. Also, I'm not allowed to date (even though I'll be 18 in a few months) and my dad hates my bf so I can't even hang out with him, so we have to sneak around to see each other so we don't see each other very often and he recently lost his internet so we haven't talked all that much the past few days, and I know he's been talking to her a lot. I'm scared she's going to replace me or he's gonna start loving her and not me. Am I being ridiculous or what? I'm just really confused, and right now I feel like **** because he knew I wanted to see him today, he could drive to the park near my house and I can go for a walk and meet up with him without my dad knowing which my boyfriend does sometimes and I'd be able to see him for at least an hour and then once he left my house he could've gone to the other girls house but no he just went to her house even after I asked if he could go to the park near my house. I'm not a very demanding girlfriend, I don't ask for much, and I'm usually pretty understanding of his needs and give him his space, but the jealousy that I feel with her is just too much, I can't take this anymore and I don't want to ask him to stop talking to her because I'm not the type of girlfriend that would do that. :[ Any advice would be really appreciated. Oh and if anybody knows any songs that have to do with loving your boyfriend but being really jealous of another girl.. please tell me, I've been looking for one to relate to but I haven't found one.
peace_pipe Posted October 9, 2007 Posted October 9, 2007 He's playing you like a fiddle. You're only 18, there are going to be so many guys that you meet. Focus on your education and career, then when you are 25 or 30 and a decent man comes along... he will have something to like about you.
stillafool Posted October 9, 2007 Posted October 9, 2007 Sweety if he's hanging out that long with this chick it doesn't sound good. How old are they? I assume since your father won't let you see this guy you probably don't have sex with him. If that's the case good but I doubt if he is going without. I know it's hard because you love him but trust your father. He can see right through this guy.
Author lostinatrance Posted October 10, 2007 Author Posted October 10, 2007 I have had sex with him (like I said, my dad doesn't allow us to date but I still see him). My dad has no idea who this guy is.. all my dad knows is that he likes me, so my dad automatically doesn't like him. My dad's just absurdly overprotective because he barely knows me (I didn't live with him until three years ago, I lived with my grandma in NY until then). I don't think he did anything, I trust him, it's just her I don't trust, but I'm just annoyed that he'll still go to her house for six hours, knowing how jealous I get of her.
stillafool Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 He's staying over their for 6 hours because that's where he wants to be. If you trust him then don't worry about her because she can't rape him. If they have sex it's because he wants to. I think if he respected your relationship he wouldn't hang out at another girl's house. I also feel you should express your feelings to him.
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