samsungxoxo Posted October 8, 2007 Posted October 8, 2007 Yesterday when I was talking to b/f, I went so brutality honest on saying that I was thinking/fantasizing about other guys and about cheating mostly when I was angry at him after having an argument but I never did it off course. At first he basically got confused and went on saying [With who, when, were you really gonna cheat on me). I kept saying that thoughts and fantasies do not count. At the end he was ok with it as long as they do not turn into actions. I would imagine random guys I do not even know, celebrities like Justin Timberlake but the only thing I did not tell is about this co-worker. Darn I feel I should not have said that, did I really needed to be sooo brutal.
Author samsungxoxo Posted October 8, 2007 Author Posted October 8, 2007 Those thoughts would mostly occur either whenever I got angry or when he started not taking me out like before (when he was too busy at work).
Cobra_X30 Posted October 8, 2007 Posted October 8, 2007 Those thoughts would mostly occur either whenever I got angry or when he started not taking me out like before (when he was too busy at work). Girl, those are dangerous thoughts... and they will lead to action if you dont fix that! Believe me... thoughts lead to actions! Plus... if you have a specific co-worker in mind... that IS on the border of cheating, emotionally!
Author samsungxoxo Posted October 8, 2007 Author Posted October 8, 2007 True I had his number and he had mine but I did told b/f we exchanged numbers. It just never got further than greeting and one time flirting/laughing (now I am not telling him that part, no need to). But see he started changing, he would not take me out like before and always to busy at work, I felt left out and off course I could imagine stupid stuff when I get angry after an argument.
Author samsungxoxo Posted October 8, 2007 Author Posted October 8, 2007 I have them fix now, I do not think about it anymore, that was before.
Cobra_X30 Posted October 8, 2007 Posted October 8, 2007 I have them fix now, I do not think about it anymore, that was before. That is very good! See in a relationship there will always be hard times. If you work real hard and learn to tell your guy what you want, its more meaningful and rewarding. If you just go looking for another guy... you will end up with the same problems... because they come from inside you. Communication is key! So does he take you out more?
Author samsungxoxo Posted October 8, 2007 Author Posted October 8, 2007 Actually now it is long distance but he is coming next year. Interesting part is I do not have them anyone now that I am in Peru. In a way it is kinda like the attempt robbery sceneria when one guy sometimes imagines and thinks about robbing a bank but he clearly knows it is wrong and never does it.
Cobra_X30 Posted October 8, 2007 Posted October 8, 2007 Actually now it is long distance but he is coming next year. Interesting part is I do not have them anyone now that I am in Peru. In a way it is kinda like the attempt robbery sceneria when one guy sometimes imagines and thinks about robbing a bank but he clearly knows it is wrong and never does it. Peru, That country is beautiful! Your lucky to be there! Yes I understand that its something that you never intend to do, but... once there was this guy that I hated. I used to think about punching him every time he made me angry. Then one day... I did! I'm not sure why. I am usually not that kind of person, but I did. I punched him right in the face! I thought about it so much, that eventually I just did it without thinking. I got in lots of trouble.
whichwayisup Posted October 9, 2007 Posted October 9, 2007 By admitting to him, that you've thought about it, even in the heat of the moment has made him stop and think... Get pissed off at him, discuss the issues at hand, don't use low blows like that - All they do is feed negative feelings, and he'll trust you less. Imagine how you would feel if he had told you the same thing? I bet it would hurt your feelings and also make you think, wonder IS he going to cheat on me?
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