starlite Posted October 8, 2007 Posted October 8, 2007 We decided to give it another shot and it lasted about 6 days or so. I broke it off after my best friends wedding. I just feel so distant from him. I love him SO much!!!!!! But I dont trust him enough. There have been too many lies. What makes me feel even worse is knowing how sad he is. He wrote me an email telling me he will miss me like crazy etc and I just feel awful...and add that to the fact that him and his good friend are at odds right now. I hope he doesnt feel alone. I guess I keep telling myself that he did this to himself. I couldnt spend my life with someone who told me how I shoulnd make his lies such a big deal. He said they shouldnt effect me so deeply. He took it back while I was breaking up with him, but before he was so sticking by his word. I need 100% honesty!!!! Non-negotiable! I just feel sad. I am not like breaking down crying or anything I think because I know this is what is right, but I do feel SO damn sad about it. He means so much to me!
alwayshurt Posted October 8, 2007 Posted October 8, 2007 I have a similar situation and I can feel your pain. But I think you did the right thing. Sometimes heart and ratioanlity get in conflict and it takes a lot of courage to choose the right thing. What is the purpose of being with somebody if he/she cannot be trusted? You will feel better in a few days, he is the one who should do a lot of thinking and start growing up. Best wishes.
Bosiell Posted October 8, 2007 Posted October 8, 2007 Star I admire your courage. Overruling your heart with your head is very difficult. I am sure in time you will be very confident in your decision and will be very proud of yourself. Trust is a very important factor in any relationship. I would rather make the gravest of mistakes, then surrender my own judgement. quote from "The last of the Mohicans" take care.
ijustwannago Posted October 8, 2007 Posted October 8, 2007 Star... you must be true to yourself above all else except god of course. good for you. i hope your heart is getting better with every breath. are you going to start NC?
Author starlite Posted October 9, 2007 Author Posted October 9, 2007 Hi All! Thanks for replying. My Mother has been telling me she is "proud" of me. I can see that, I couldn't stay with someone I didnt trust...constant checking up and worrying. It is a bad feeling. I am still sad and all but it was (I think) the right decision. Ijustwannago- NC will start as soon as we have a few things figured out such as getting him off my cell phone plan and getting him off my health insurance. I told him I would give him a few weeks but he just has to pay me. So...basically it will be minimal contact and then none once it is all sorted out. We have to be together to get him off my phone plan though because they need to speak with both of us. I'll be ok. I am dealing with this better than him. It is just so sad that you can love someone so much...live with them and spend 2.5 years with them and then just have it....end. I wish he had just realized how important honesty was!!! But he didnt (even if now that he has lost me he claims to...he didnt get it a week ago and I know the truth).
SamanthaX Posted October 9, 2007 Posted October 9, 2007 If you have doubts, move on. They won't go away with time. Leave some room for a guy you know its rights with.
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