xfess Posted October 8, 2007 Posted October 8, 2007 For about 3 years, I’ve been going to this bar with my best friend. We know the whole staff at the bar, and we go there at least once a week. We never really do anything stupid except when it comes to the shot girls - we get the occasional "Booby Shot" where they put the shots (in test tubes) down their cleavage and we get them (and only the 2 of us can do it at the bar) but mostly its my friend who does it. So anyway, next Saturday is my birthday and I’m inviting my friends to come out to the bar and I want to invite this girl who I've been seeing for over 2 weeks to come too with her friends. I know she'll like the place and have fun but that’s the problem. I’m afraid that she would want to go there a little more often, that, or her friends. Here’s an example of what I mean. About 2 years ago at the bar my best friends brother met a girl who went there once a week like us. He ended up dating her for over a year, my friend and I did not like this girl to start off with because he was 23 and she was 32 just divorced with a kid and I think she was using him. They broke up late last year and my friends brother doesn’t go to the bar anymore because he doesn’t want to see her. My friend recommended me not to bring my date because the same situation could occur with me – but I’d also like to have her come just to hang out with me ‘cause I know she’ll have a great time there with me…My friend as been with his GF now Fiancée for over 8 years and never wanted her to go to the bar because he doesn’t want her to see the hot bartenders he chats with and wonder why he spends $100+ on the weekend I’m leaning to inviting her and taking the risk – does anyone have a recommendation
sb129 Posted October 8, 2007 Posted October 8, 2007 Invite her. Just because your friends have reservations/ prev bad experiences doesn't mean that it will ruin the "bar experience" for you. If you are dating and its your birthday, and other girls will be there, then she will be pretty p*ssed if she finds out she hasn't been invited. Your engaged friend sounds like he needs to grow up a little...
carolinaboy Posted October 10, 2007 Posted October 10, 2007 it's just a bar. there's plenty others. i work at a bar. couples come in all the time to shoot pool and see their friends. booby shots may have to go if it gets serious but I see couples that break up respect each other at the bar and act like adults.
Krytie TV Posted October 10, 2007 Posted October 10, 2007 Bad idea bringing a date to a regular spot. It's your safe place, and you should want to keep it that way. A g/f is a different story but a date? Bad news man. Don't do it... not to your safe haven.
woodsfield Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 Invite her. Just because your friends have reservations/ prev bad experiences doesn't mean that it will ruin the "bar experience" for you. If you are dating and its your birthday, and other girls will be there, then she will be pretty p*ssed if she finds out she hasn't been invited. Your engaged friend sounds like he needs to grow up a little... couldn't agree more.... like you said, she may dig the place and then you guys can go and have fun together. if she also wants to know the true you, then she needs to know your fav places. your buddy needs to figure that one out too and quit hiding from his woman. krytie also makes a good point...if this is your safe haven, then ponder that...if not, she may want a booby shot...now that would be a hot!
Citizen Erased Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 If you break up keep turning up and be obnoxious so she doesn't want to go there anymore. duh
Author xfess Posted October 13, 2007 Author Posted October 13, 2007 I forgot to update this thread because I was on another thread discussing a situation relating to this girl. But she was afraid of commiting to another BF after she just broke up with her ex of 3 years and she wanted to see/date other guys. I dont mind much anymore but she still talks to me online. Today is my birthday and surprisingly this girl was the first person to contact me and wish me a happy b-day. Last sunday just before she told me she wanted to date other guys I invited her to the bar for tonite. during the week she asked me if I was still going out there tonite and I said yes. So for now we are just friends (though she knows I really like her), and if she and her friends want to come out then I'd be happy to see her... Im just going to do my thing and enjoy my birthday.
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