Cutehoney Posted October 8, 2007 Posted October 8, 2007 Hi, A guy I was seeing briefly for four months has just stopped contacting me and won't reply to my texts. I wouldn't even be able to say we were boyfriend and girlfriend but we did become very close, especially by text messages. He was the biggest texter I had ever met and would text me about 30 times a day. Conversations were usually done in this manner. I met him three times and the attraction was amazing, we also got on great because we got to know one another by text too. Last time I met up with him, he held my face looked into my eyes and told me he was crazy about me.... However, I wanted to date him more and I told him this by text because we rarely met. We both have extremely busy jobs. I think I chased him away, because he was acting very distant with me, and the texts started to dwindle. Although, he would always say how much he wishes I was with him now and that he wants to get to know me better too. But, he never acted on it. So, one day I blew my top and asked him am I wasting my time, if so tell me now, if not well let's go on a date. So he said 'ok, let's meet and talk'. So, we arranged to meet up. But on the day he text me to say he was sick. I was very sympathetic and I text him 3 days later to see how he was, and he said he was still sick..The last I heard from him was that night. I texted him the next day to see how he was and he never replied, so I text him the day after that and again he didn't reply. So, I took the hint and didn't try to contact him again. I am quite frustrated because I don't know what I did wrong? I only wanted to know where I stood. I'm too old for games. Should I just move on? Or should I send him and email explaining that I only wanted to get to know him better and wasn't looking for commitment or anything? It's been 5 days since I last heard from him. He split up with a girl at the start of 2007, although he said he broke it off, I'm not convinced...Is he probably just now ready to date again?
dedo Posted October 8, 2007 Posted October 8, 2007 I think the guy may have committment problems. I once knew a guy who did something similar. He was always in my face calling me everyday, sometimes 10x a day...he was always there, we did all sorts of things together. Then I got use to the contact and started to call him as many times per day......he didnt like that. He became distant and told me it was all my fault. It was my first relationship with a control-freak. He had to be in control of the relationship. I look back now and realize I wasted my time big time on him!
Author Cutehoney Posted October 8, 2007 Author Posted October 8, 2007 Yes, I'm beginning to think he may have commitment problems. But, then again I'm not sure...as he was with a girl for 5 years. Anyway, I have just done something really stupid after 5 days of no contact..I just text him to say that I am very sad it has come to this, and then I let him know that I was frustrated the past few weeks not knowing if he was playing me or not, and then I said I never saw him as my boyfriend or wanted commitment from him or anything mad like that. AAAghhh! Regret it already. But in a way, i don't, as I feel that I am giving myself closure on this now and hopefully it may help him to not make the same mistake with the next girl he meets in the future.
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