beautifuldisaster Posted October 8, 2007 Posted October 8, 2007 I was just wondering if it's normal for guys to get turned on to see their girlfriends or wives "intimate" with other guys? The last couple of guys I've talked to about it says it's a huge turn on and actually let their girlfriends do that. I don't get that and wouldn't want to be with someone who wanted to "share" me. Is this common?
ls3360 Posted October 8, 2007 Posted October 8, 2007 This probably depends on the guy. This would not appeal to me or any of my past gf's.
JosieMcCoy Posted October 8, 2007 Posted October 8, 2007 Ewwwww! I just don't get that! Ewwww! Cheers!
kymberann Posted October 8, 2007 Posted October 8, 2007 I don't get it either. I would not want to share so why should he? I think it is a gender preference. I understand guys get a thrill with girl on girl. Ich to me though! I think though it is a voyeristic fantasy, but when it comes down to it, I bet the majority of guys would not go for it. But that's my assumption. Best
tanbark813 Posted October 8, 2007 Posted October 8, 2007 I bet the majority of guys would not go for it. I agree with this. It's not too uncommon for guys to be into that sort of thing but more often than not a guy probably wouldn't be into that.
JamesM Posted October 8, 2007 Posted October 8, 2007 No, it is not normal. Personally, I could never truly watch my wife with another man. Part of me can understand...it is kinda like watching a porn movie with your wife as the woman. BUT...this is not a movie. There are so many what if's...what if he is better, what if he becomes attracted to my wife, what if she becomes attracted to him...and on and on. I think that if a guy loves a woman, sex is an expression of his love for her. It is not simply being a participant in a porn movie. Having said that, yes, for me it would be a turn on to see my wife with another woman, but I doubt the reality would be as "exciting" as the fantasy. I know she doesn't have the interest, so it would not happen.
kymberann Posted October 8, 2007 Posted October 8, 2007 There are so many what if's...what if he is better, what if he becomes attracted to my wife, what if she becomes attracted to him...and on and on. Good point! I just had this conversation with this guy that I have been seeing. He and I talked about "sharing" and I said "no way" for some of these reasons. He was interested, but he told me when it came to it, he would be hurt if I had too much of an interest in the other guy. And the whole comparing bit, we (people in general) naturally do that now during the whole courtship! I don't want to waste my time wondering if anyone else is better when I have spent lots of time working on what I have now!
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