Medical Marital Debts

[prapti]

We are divorcing, my marriage lasted around a year. I dont want it to end but he does. I tried reasoning, telling him it is not the best solution....etc etc, but he wants out. This is fine, I have accepted now. In fact, now I feel it is for the better, like, I realize he was NOT THE ONE FOR ME. My issue is not love, my issue is medical marital debt. Anyone out there know what to do if your soon to be ex has been using your medical insuanrce and now, has a 6000 dollars debt into it?

 

This is the thing as I didnt want divorce I took my sweet time in "getting served". Not intentionally but when they used to come I was at work.

Now, I have filed my appearance and he has changed his phone number.

He has stated I am "harrasing" him...which LITERALLY NOT TRUE. I wanted to save marriage initially...but, then when I saw his attitude BACKED OFF. And now I came to a stage where I am ok with it. Need to do my dwelling, but came to a point where dwelling is more about "the marriage" than HIM.

He sent people as if I am crazy woman he cannot not talk to., at this point he has not set up a court date and has used my medical insurance. Anyone know what to do next? How can I deal wtih this man, when he doesnt behave proper. If I call him (oh yeah he changed his phone number but then started calling again) he will say I am bothering him, even if I call him for settling things. There is no need for an attorney, why should i get one, when literally NO NEED>

Any ideas, I wished he would have realized but now I have put aside my feelings as he has misused them against me.

Thanks

[Melovator]

I hate to disagree with you, but you do need to get a lawyer. He's wracked up $6000 worth of debt in YOUR NAME!!! Get a lawyer NOW!!!! You have just contracted an STD- Sexually Transmitted Debt!!! A lawyer is possibly your only cure!!!

 

He wants to be left alone, then leave him alone. Don't take his phone calls and Don't call him. He wanted out- give him out! Get a lawyer and tell your ex to send all further communications to them.

 

Also: get the feeling that you're trying hard but you're also having a tough time emotionally- that's normal. But 'Dwelling' can become sitting around in the dark listening to Leonard Cohen and being too depressed to get up and go to the toilet. Not very pretty at all.

 

Is your ex worth that? Seriously, he wanted to end your relationship but felt free to use your medical insurance??? What a w@nker! Be glad to be free of such an unethical man!

[alterego1234]

Check with an attorney. I live in a community property state, which would mean in your case that $3000 of that debt is his and $3000 of that debt is yours. Going forward, any money you bring in would be half his, and any money he brought in would be half yours. Similarly, any debt you incurred would be half his.

 

This means as long as you two are married, he can play games like this with you. Conversely, you can play games with him. If you want to play games, you could go on a $6,000 vacation or have a $6,000 plastic surgery done. All's fair in love and war. My ex and I did a little bit of this before our divorce. She went to Alaska (with her boyfriend), so I went on a trip to Central America (by myself).

 

If you don't want to play games in return and he is footdragging, you can counterfile for divorce and drive the process at your own speed. Each state has rules about waiting periods and things, but if you're pushing for the divorce you can make it happen regardless of his preferences.

 

If you wanted to get nasty, you could take him off your health insurance. Not sure what impact that would be, but it's a thought.

 

Again, check with an attorney. Divorce and division of assets are state-specific, so what I wrote above may not apply to you.

[reboot]

These are not the kind of things you need to get advice on at an internet forum. Get a lawyer, fast.