TheFaithfulWife Posted October 8, 2007 Posted October 8, 2007 I had posted here and talked about my husband having an affair four or more years ago. After forgiving him and taking him back and a year of counseling at an outrageous amount of money I thought we were doing well. Now four almost five years later and 22 years of marriage he moved out a little over a month ago with no notice. He told me that he could no longer live with me and our five boys because he was going to have a breakdown over our messy house and the chaos the boys created. So I began to work on the house with a vengence and made the boys settle down. What was my reward for getting things all straightened out? He filed for divorce. He claims he still loves me but that he is moving on with his life. I was falling apart until today. I think an old girlfriend from his college days has come back into the picture. I know that the past two Saturdays he claimed to be up at a camp organizing an event ... well I drove up there and he wasn't there. So I confronted him with my suspicions that he was seeing someone and he still denies it but when I tried to look at his cell phone he got irate and took it from me. I am trying to be strong but I am suffering greatly and I still love him. I need some encouragement and some advice from someone who has gone through this. I have no money for an attorney and I need to know if there are resources for women that can help Thank you TFW
justice Posted October 8, 2007 Posted October 8, 2007 http://www.dca.ca.gov/publications/guide/legal_index.shtml Hope this helps.
EnigmaXOXO Posted October 8, 2007 Posted October 8, 2007 Just pick up the phone and call one. Let them know the predicament you’re in: “husband has filed for divorce and I don’t have access to our finances in order to hire legal consultation. I need help ... what can I do?” I’m sure someone will be happy to advise you over the phone. Any legal costs you acquire can be incorporated into your divorce settlement. Particularly since he’s the one that’s filing, he will have to pay. Personally, I’d recommend a female attorney if you can find one in your area. You’ll find them easier to confide in when you give them the run down of all that’s transpired ... and much more empathetic/sympathetic to the situation you and your children have been placed in. Don’t let fear of the unknown paralyze you into inaction.
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