Author Capricorn Posted October 9, 2007 Author Posted October 9, 2007 Yeah I can't stand women that go after other peoples men either, whether it's my man or some ho going after my friends man , that is just pathetic! A couple years when I still lived at home with my parents, my mom had tenants on the other side of her house. They had a daughter a few years younger then me and my sister in law. Well my brother and my man would hang out in the garage on the weekend but I worked weekends, well the tramp next store would go out in the garage with my bro and my man when me and my sister in law weren't around. This girl had also tryed to grab my sisters boyfriend by the ass right in front of her, well my sister almost broke her arm! So one day me and my sister in law were hanging out on the front porch and the ho was on hers. I said out loud " It's so pathetic that a lot of skanks can't get a man of there own and try to get with someone elses man and they need their face bashed in". I said it out loud but not directly cause this girl was only 17 and me and my sister in law were 23. Well anyway that ho bag never went around the guys after that and would run in the house when she seen me!!
MerryMelodie Posted October 18, 2007 Posted October 18, 2007 Men get jealous but they hide it better then women. Men don't like to show signs of weakness.
MystifiedByMen Posted October 18, 2007 Posted October 18, 2007 All the time. Why do you think there are bar fights when their ladies get hit on!
pyroguy Posted October 18, 2007 Posted October 18, 2007 Possessive, not jealous! Not a fair statement. That's your opinion, and from your other posts, one can tell you are a very liberal, new age type of person who into having his SO have sex with others. That's fine if it makes you happy and doesn't hurt others, but just remember as much as that is becoming more popular, if I were to poll a few thousand men, a very small percent would share your view. In MY opinion, it's natural to have those feelings. Once you care for a woman, you just get that way. I think men are wired that way. Like it or not, men's feelings are very tied to sex. Ever heard the old saying "women give sex to get love, men give love to get sex". That's why women neglecting sex with their husband is such an issue. Men take that as a lack of intimacy. Sort of like a woman wanting men to pay attention more to her and communicate more etc., So much of men's self worth is tied to their sexuality. They're wired that way, and I think many women fail to realize that. That's why the physical affair of a wife is said to be worse than an emotional affair-often times a deal breaker. That's why you hear so many men asking about penis size in different forums. To bring it back to the main topic, once you really care for, love, and/or are married to a woman, men don't want their SO drooling over some guy who they know is better looking than them. It doesn't mean he will be insane with jealousy, or it will have an impact on their relationship, but it's not comfortable. And, many guys will just not admit that, even here-but I think their being dishonest. Yes, there are people like shadowofman who have a completely different view, to the extent of having no issue with their SO sleeping with others, but I think they are in the great minority. Here's my question to you, if your SO is sleeping with others, what's the difference between you and any other guy now? Like I said, I think most guys are wired to have the sex in their relationship mean something. It's special. It's something only you two share. In the other scenario, you are just another guy. In fact, what makes the woman any different than another male friend? what differentiates between you and joe Blow down the street? that you get to watch TV with her at night? Let's face it, it may sound a bit harsh, but what differentiates male-male and male female relationships? (for heterosexuals) The male-female people hold hands, kiss, and have sex (besides being friends). No offense to my male friends, but I have no desire to kiss them-they repulse me. And, it's special because it's just the two of you. If it's a bunch of others, there is really no difference between partners. Of course, that's my opinion, and I'm sure you have an exciting life. If it works for you, and all parties are OK, well then..OK
MerryMelodie Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 Just wanted to respond, I'm actually the original poster but had problems with my my log in name/password! Anyway, since I posted this question a lot has happened between me and my man that actually answered my question about guys and jealousy! I've been with my man almost 4 years and he always hid his jealousy. Anyway we had a huge fight because where I work, there is a guy I've known for years, well someone told me this guy liked me but I was shocked!! I knew this guy for years, I hadn't seen him for a long time up until a few months ago when I started working where him and my brother work. Anyway I told my man that someone else said this guy liked me but i thought it was just gossip because this guy was seeing another girl. Well at first my boyfriend didn't seem to care and I remained just friends with this other guy and only talked to him at work, well a few days ago my man really flipped out and actually wanted me to quit my job because of this guy being there!! Honestly I like this guy as a friend but even if I was single I would not date him!! I told my man this guy is only a friend and even pointed out this other guys bad qualities but my man is still jealous of this other guy!!!
pyroguy Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 Just wanted to respond, I'm actually the original poster but had problems with my my log in name/password! Anyway, since I posted this question a lot has happened between me and my man that actually answered my question about guys and jealousy! I've been with my man almost 4 years and he always hid his jealousy. Anyway we had a huge fight because where I work, there is a guy I've known for years, well someone told me this guy liked me but I was shocked!! I knew this guy for years, I hadn't seen him for a long time up until a few months ago when I started working where him and my brother work. Anyway I told my man that someone else said this guy liked me but i thought it was just gossip because this guy was seeing another girl. Well at first my boyfriend didn't seem to care and I remained just friends with this other guy and only talked to him at work, well a few days ago my man really flipped out and actually wanted me to quit my job because of this guy being there!! Honestly I like this guy as a friend but even if I was single I would not date him!! I told my man this guy is only a friend and even pointed out this other guys bad qualities but my man is still jealous of this other guy!!! [/quote Read my earelier post. Like I said, men are wired that way. It's natural.
shadowofman Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 Not a fair statement. That's your opinion, I stand by the definitions. If possessive people think that this term has a bad connotation, then maybe they won't like to use that term. I would think that possessive people would embrace this concept. I make this distiction because possessiveness has nothing to do with self-esteem, while jealousy is definately effected by self image. And I will admit to being possessive in the past. I've felt that burning feeling that you get all through your core when you find out you partner has cheated. I have just come to a moral roof on this topic. I cannot in good conscious, stop a loved one from doing anything that they want to do. What seperates me from other men would be the love. And if my W loved another, that wouldn't bother me much anymore. As I get older, I get more "liberal", so to speak. Again, not pushing my lifestyle on anyone. Just defining words!
Ocean-Blue Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 I was just wondering if men ever really get jealous of other men looks? A lot of women get jealous or feel threatened by thinner/prettier women, does this happen to men? I know most women get jealous if their man drools over other women. It seems guys don't even care if their wives/girlfriends ogle other men! Maybe guys just hide their jealous feelings better then women? Relative to women, I don't think men get as jealous. However, I'm sure some get jealous. Some things I find men get jealous over: height, penis length, income, and cars.
shadowofman Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 Good points. I will admit to being slightly envious of a tall man with a big penis. I could care less about income or cars.
The Loacker Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 A man will get jealous if he sees a girl he likes getting hit on by another guy, but maybe not as much if he catches her looking at some other guy (mainly because you women are so good at hiding it haha). It would still create some uncomfortable feelings though, since she's not checking YOU out. But to answer your question, yes men get jealous.
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