Chesleyfan Posted October 7, 2007 Posted October 7, 2007 Hey everyone. I have a question that will probably seem kinda silly, but it's one I've asked myself over this past weekend. So about two week ago I finally made a move on a woman was interested in, and since then we've been hanging out a lot. We've kissed (a lot), and I've spent the night at her apartment twice (both times because I was in no shape to drive home, but I did sleep in her bed). So last night I went out with friends that I haven't seen in some time, and I told them about her. I didn't use the word "girlfriend" because I thought it was rather presumptuous at this point (I mean, it's been barely two weeks and only two "real" dates), but I mentioned that "I met this girl... yada yada" The rest of the night they simply referred to her as my girlfriend when she was brought up in conversation. (She wasn't there, by the way). As far as I know she hasn't referred to me as "boyfriend", either. So my question is this: at what point does someone "officially" become boyfriend/girlfriend? Is it when you mutually decided that you want something more serious/exclusive? Is there like, a hierarchy of definitions for varying stages of relationships in some manual that I was never issued?
Lishy Posted October 7, 2007 Posted October 7, 2007 I think it is after you have had 'the talk' BUT sometimes you can meet someone and instantly you just know you are boyfriend/girlfriend and instantly you are exclusive.
Timberlane Posted October 7, 2007 Posted October 7, 2007 Like Lish says, I think it happens when you have the Talk as well, agree that you are exclusive, and that you are going to call it that around others. Now I do know couples that have been exclusive for years and yet still reject the boyfriend-girlfriend label, but they are nuts. Seriously, you can only hide so long. Some day they gonna call it something and aint nothing you can do about it. Later, people will say you are "practically married." I love when that one comes out. Ha ha ha.
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