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Just wondering if any of you guys have ever met the right person and instead of being joyful, have gotten freaked out and just disappeared?

 

i feel like there are a couple guys in my life right NOW that i could have potentially amazing relationships with, but for some reason, i can't bring myself to admit it to myself.

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I have become such a pro at disappearance that I avoid any guy who could be relationship material.

 

Here's a thread I started on somewhat the same topic.

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t131625/

 

I seriously don't know why we do this. But, hey, at least we're not alone.

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Ah yes. I am a pro at the "eject" button also! ironically, i think i was on the "other" side of that button recently. i was ejected! haha.

 

i don't know. something just freezes in me when the thought of a real relationship becomes a possibility, so i always end up dealing with these stupid guys, instead of the good ones.

 

So what happened with the chef?

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Hee hee, I was going to send you to kamilles thread myself, when I saw she found you on her own. I am doing this too, so I shall watch BOTH your threads with interest !!!

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If they're the right person for you, they don't disappear... ;)

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Just wondering if any of you guys have ever met the right person and instead of being joyful, have gotten freaked out and just disappeared?

 

i feel like there are a couple guys in my life right NOW that i could have potentially amazing relationships with, but for some reason, i can't bring myself to admit it to myself.

 

It happens a lot. The really sad part is the hell you go through a few years later (usually when you're lonely and/or with the wrong person) realizing that you may have let a great relationship go by the wayside.

 

However, until you are absolutely ready no number of right people will be right enough. Each individual has to evolve into the mind frame that makes having a long term relationship feasible...and that has NOTHING at all to do with how many right people are around.

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Yup, totally right Tony T. It has completely to do with me. So frustrating. I'm working on it right now.

 

I mentioned before how I think I was on the other side of the "eject" button. I sweeeaaar I am the least conceited person I know, but I could tell this guy really liked me, and -- of course -- I wasn't that into him. But I gave him a chance and once things got rolling, he bailed.

 

I look at all my friends, and they're all in healthy, lovely relationships. It shows me that it can happen, but my friends are also a little less crazy than me. haha.

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Just wondering if any of you guys have ever met the right person and instead of being joyful, have gotten freaked out and just disappeared?

 

i feel like there are a couple guys in my life right NOW that i could have potentially amazing relationships with, but for some reason, i can't bring myself to admit it to myself.

 

Maybe you're not looking to settle down just yet?

 

I don't know about disappearing but in the past I've met many wonderful women, which upon realization further months/years ahead that I missed a great a opportunity. In fact there's this one girl I think about every so often, my friend's old co-worker he introduced me to once while at a bar a few months ago. I keep telling him to call her out but he never does...jerk! :lmao:

Situations like that are out of my control and can't do anything about.

 

I think in your situation you should take a risk before it's too late :)

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Oh dear. I wish I could make a move, but I'm afraid I'm just not ready yet.

 

Fortunately, i am a person who knows that someday, I'll have it all figured out! I'm just on the slow track. haha.

 

Related story: About three years ago, this boy and I almost dated; he was a nice guy, but there was all this drama going on (unrelated to me) and he said he was sorry, but he couldn't deal with it. I was sad for like a week, then got over it. Funny thing is, he pops up every 5-6 months like clockwork! I know it's because he regrets it!

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Several times over I have simply walked away from women who I was really into. It comes from somewhere in my psyche, that part that prefers a more solitary existence. I think that with every woman who I’ve carried on with that there comes a time when it is either turn it into a relationship or run away. The run away part usually wins.

 

My current girlfriend, I think three times I’ve tried to just leave her, but there is something about her that keeps me going back. Maybe I’ve finally found the right girl.

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Wow. it's really interesting that a lot of us do this. I wonder what we all have in common that makes us do this.

 

For myself, I think it comes from a history of low self-esteem, and from the fact of getting scared of getting attached to someone. It's so intense that I don't even have to DATE the person, just the thought is enough to make me run.

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Wow. it's really interesting that a lot of us do this. I wonder what we all have in common that makes us do this.

 

For myself, I think it comes from a history of low self-esteem, and from the fact of getting scared of getting attached to someone.

 

Yea very intersting....I wasnt like this before. Before, if I liked someone I'd hold onto them. But it seems like after having my heart broken a few times, I'm just scared and dont want to get hurt again.

 

It's so intense that I don't even have to DATE the person, just the thought is enough to make me run.

 

So true! :lmao:

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Ah yes. I am a pro at the "eject" button also! ironically, i think i was on the "other" side of that button recently. i was ejected! haha.

 

i don't know. something just freezes in me when the thought of a real relationship becomes a possibility, so i always end up dealing with these stupid guys, instead of the good ones.

 

So what happened with the chef?

 

We had a third date tonight and now I'm really glad I didn't just bolt out of there.

 

He might be one of the good ones and that was why my eject button instinct were so high. I think for me it's past experience that make me freak out when I meet someone who has potential.

 

I feel better now. And am looking foward to our next date.

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