Woggle Posted October 7, 2007 Posted October 7, 2007 The biggest mistake men make in relationships is promising to change and bend ourselves to suit whatever a woman wants. It works for a little while and then we revert back to our old selves because we are trying to change the nature of who we are. I sat down with my wife after she proposed and I told her that what she sees in front of her is what she will get after she marries me and she still wanted it. So far she has not tried to change me because I let her know from jump that I won't change. I think if more men took an accept me for who I am approach in relationships and marriages things would be a whole lot better. Women see us as we are before they marry us so I don't why they should complain when we our ourselves after marriage.
Blackberry Posted October 7, 2007 Posted October 7, 2007 Well, there is always room for improvement and I think we should all be focused on self-improvement in all aspects of our lives.
Author Woggle Posted October 7, 2007 Author Posted October 7, 2007 Improving on the original design is always a good thing but when men try to change the design all together they run into problems.
Author Woggle Posted October 7, 2007 Author Posted October 7, 2007 Why isn't there a yawning smiley? I don't see how this thread is anti-woman at all. I think it is good solid advice to give to men so that they don't make promises they can't keep.
Lyssa Posted October 7, 2007 Posted October 7, 2007 Woggle, pretty good one. I think both men and women shouldn't change for anyone. Improvement is good, of course but to change someone entirely is wrong. No one should make a promise they can't keep. I have no problem being with someone who is always himself. I wouldn't change a guy.
Timberlane Posted October 7, 2007 Posted October 7, 2007 Also, when you are talking about personal improvement, it's good to keep in mind that a 5% reduction in a bad behavior is very hard for the person to accomplish. But to the observer, it is an invisible improvement. So don't expect to see big changes even after years. Decide now if behaviors are at least tolerable at the levels they are at now.
Pyro Posted October 7, 2007 Posted October 7, 2007 The biggest mistake men make in relationships is promising to change and bend ourselves to suit whatever a woman wants. It works for a little while and then we revert back to our old selves because we are trying to change the nature of who we are. I sat down with my wife after she proposed and I told her that what she sees in front of her is what she will get after she marries me and she still wanted it. So far she has not tried to change me because I let her know from jump that I won't change. I think if more men took an accept me for who I am approach in relationships and marriages things would be a whole lot better. Women see us as we are before they marry us so I don't why they should complain when we our ourselves after marriage. The same can be said about women. They shouldn't change for men. Self improvement yes, but change just to make the other person happy is not right.
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