esuom Posted October 6, 2007 Posted October 6, 2007 Old concept and expression "opposites attract" has been batted around for centuries. Im still pondering about my last breakup, it was simply a conclsuion from my ex that we were not compatible. Is your breakup due to personalities incompatible? Do compatible couples breaks too? Shareyour opinion?
jade6147 Posted October 6, 2007 Posted October 6, 2007 that is what my ex bf is telling me on why we broke up he says we are just not compatible, but personally i think there is more to it than that
niceguy27 Posted October 6, 2007 Posted October 6, 2007 Compatible couples break up too. My ex and I shared the same core beliefs and had a lot of fun together. We got along on a lot of different levels. But for reason still unkonwn to me she wanted to call it quits.
Teach28 Posted October 6, 2007 Posted October 6, 2007 Same here my ex and I were quite compatible well besides areas of television shows haha. We ended because he decided he didn't want a relationship out of the blue.
Author esuom Posted October 7, 2007 Author Posted October 7, 2007 Well, how many of you find that 'we are not compatible' is just a mere excuse for dumper?
Krying Posted October 7, 2007 Posted October 7, 2007 It's one of many general cliched excuses. Compatibility, doesn't just mean you like all the same things, have all the same interests etc., it also mean you know how that person ticks, how to piss them off, how not to piss them off, when to give them space, be affectionate and so on. That to me is compatibility. Sure some people get along alot easier than others, but so what, it doesn't mean they are going to be more successful than other people. All up, any relationship requires work, trust and building a nice foundation. That is compatibility.
Spinderella Posted October 7, 2007 Posted October 7, 2007 There are so many different levels. On some surface ones, I think lack of compatibility doesnt matter, but on a very deep and emotional level its very important. I would say its a perfectly valid reason. It seems silly to say, "its just an excuse" because there IS a reason why you broke up, and one answer has to be the right one!
Ssheena Posted October 7, 2007 Posted October 7, 2007 Ah yes, the "I've decided we aren't compatible" line. No other explanation besides that. Lovely. Been there, done that...well, actually heard that. Who knows. Relationships are work and for someone to say "I've decided" without discussing what is bothering them without the supposed partner, it seems to me to be taking the easy way out. Although.... who is to say every relationship would/could work if both people put the time and effort into it. Sometimes people just aren't truly compatible. (wow - i need more coffee)
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