daisy77 Posted October 6, 2007 Posted October 6, 2007 DO I TELL HIM I STILL LOVE HIM? I am such a bad situation and I have no one else to blame but myself. The thing is that it is eating me up inside and I am in so much pain. I am in love with another guy who is not my boyfriend. We did see each other for a bit and I told him I loved him and I would leave my boyfriend but he basically said he didn't want to be responsible for breaking us up and that he wasn't really in love with me... yet he still slept with me and I still let him. Now we are friends.... he has just started seeing another girl, one in a long line as they never seem to last, but this time it seems pretty serious. We get on so well, have so much fun when we are together and we know we both enjoy each others company so much. We have a lot of the same friends now so it is hard not to see him. I know he likes me a lot. He is giving me a present and the other day he was asking about my boyfriend and brought up this time that I slapped him and really told him what a idiot he was and how bad he felt about it. But basically I didn't see him for a while and then recently we started hanging out lots. It was fine at first but I just fancy him all over again. The more I see him the more I like him and the more attention I want from him. It is so hard to see him with someone else, especially when she is kind of a version of me! I love him, I love my boyfriend but feel this other guy is who I should be with. THE ONE. I cannot stop thinking about him and it is driving me crazy. Is it because I can't have him? I feel that deep down that he does want me and that if I hadn't had a boyfriend when me met we would still be together. I guess if we are meant to be together we will be. I guess I have to be patient and see how my feelings pan out. Take it easy and try not to worry to much. I have a wonderful boyfriend who has no idea of any of this and who loves me with all his heart but we have been having a bad time of it over the past 6 months. I guess that is down to me and what I have been feeling. All I can say is what a mess. I am in pain but its all my own fault. Has anyone else been in the same situation? Do I tell him that I still love him or will that just push him away? I don't want to loose him on the friendship front.
MattyTee Posted October 6, 2007 Posted October 6, 2007 I think whatever you decide to do about "the one" you need to address the fact that you are already in a relationship. I'm not going to get on my high-horse or anything here but it isn't really fair on your current partner that you are pining after someone else. No one wants to be a second-choice so you need to think long and hard about your current relationship regardless of this other guy. Either choose to be with him or choose not to, but don't let this go on. That's just my two pence.
SuperHands Posted October 6, 2007 Posted October 6, 2007 You say this other guy is the one, but are you fully sure that your feelings for him are from real experiences with him, or through fantasies of things that never happened. One thing i've learned through getting over the ex, is that all you seem to remember is the really good moments and on top of that, your mind heightens them. Are you sure you are not comparing your experiences with your current boyfriend, with 'rose tinted' experiences with this other guy?
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