heartbroken_shak Posted October 6, 2007 Posted October 6, 2007 hi guy's, i'm 22 and my ex is 21 we've been togeher for almost 5 years, but now al off a sudden she dont want to be with me any more, she say's she wants to be independent, she said she'll stay in contact with me but thats it, since we've been together she's never been out with any other guy, but recently about 1-2 weeks before we broke up she went to london with work while she was there she promised me she would call me and stay in contact but she did'nt. i'm the type that if she say's she'll call me and then if she dont it'l gett me realy pissed of, cuz we normay talk every night for a few hours. any ways wen she decided to answer i gave her alsorts of abuse like i think she's a slag and i realy said some bad stuff to her which i honestly did not mean. for that reason she dont want to be with me any more, it's been about a month since we've broken up and we stil call each other every day, it realy hurts me wen she talks about being with other people, she does not express her self at all about that she misses me or any thing lke that, but i feel so hurt and i've got to a point wer i realy want to stop loving her. the more i try to forgett her the more i'l call her and express all my feelings to her. i can go on for ages but i wont. PLEASE HELP ME GUYS I BEG U, IF U NEED ANY MORE INFO PLZ ASK. THANX GUY'S
blueladybird Posted October 6, 2007 Posted October 6, 2007 You should not have insulted her, nevertheless in my opinion i think she left you for other reasons. You have been together for 5 years, i doubt if she would leave you cos you called her a slag for not picking up her phone (especially as she got mad when you didnt call her as well). Maybe someone has caught her attention..maybe she wants to chill out for a bit..maybe she was not really happy in the relationship and might have been thinking of leaving..and therefore used the opportunity (you callin her a slag) to leave. Why didnt she call you when she went to london? Maybe someone was with her..nevertheless just let her be..dont accuse her or anything..she may realise the grass is not that green outside..just give her space. and try to stay strong..its hard but if its meant to be, it will be
Yamaha Posted October 6, 2007 Posted October 6, 2007 maybe she was not really happy in the relationship and might have been thinking of leaving..and therefore used the opportunity (you callin her a slag) to leave. Bingo!!!!!
Ssheena Posted October 6, 2007 Posted October 6, 2007 Regardless of how you feel, and it is obvious you have been blindsided by this, she does not feel the same way towards you. That is the absolute hardest thing to "get". She wants out and is out of the relationship with you and she has made a choice both without your opinion and on her own. The sooner you accept that it's over the better and the best way is really to cut all contact with her. Don't call her, don't talk with her etc. If you absolutely must speak with her, tell her how you feel, tell her what you want from the relationship and that's all you can do. You can not and never can make someone love you. You can own your feelings and say, I love you and I want to be in a relationship with you. Then you can say to yourself, I told her how I feel, I was clear with her there is nothing more I can do. Then walk away. Time to look to the future.
Author heartbroken_shak Posted October 6, 2007 Author Posted October 6, 2007 the thing is that wen ever i ask her if she loves me..... she always say's yes, and she tells me her self that she misses me, wen we do meet up she'll let me kiss her and evan hold her in my arms, i no i should'nt do this but it makes me feel so much better......she's evan said it her self so much times that she dont no why she dont want to be with me and realy wants to sort her self out. i've told her so many times that i think we should try to not contact each other for about a week and see how we get on......she'll say ok and so will i.....but almost instantly after i get of the phone i'll tex her back and she'll reply. i dont no wat it is she means the world to me..... evan up until this day i still bleive that she'll come back to me. she is so beautifull..... every time i see her she makes me smile.
dantheram Posted October 6, 2007 Posted October 6, 2007 Exactly the same thing happened to me a month ago and im the same age as you and my ex was also 21. I went travelling and when i got back she left me. Im having a real hard time forgetting her as we did everything together and as such everything reminds me of her!! Don't let her put you on the back burner and string you along, once its over its over im afraid. I think to myslef i'd love to have my ex back BUT then i think wait a minute am i really going to enjoy it, is it going to be the same. Heart says yes but head knows better!
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