analyseThis Posted October 6, 2007 Posted October 6, 2007 So how many of you base your decision on skin color. Cmon be honest. Today I was at the gym working out; yes I am pumping some iron to get into shape. I noticed this girl who was working out; she had a really hot bod. I dont like to stare at people working out esp. women; but a quick glimpse was all i needed. She wasnt white; she was not black; more so brown?!? But damn she had some sharp features and a nice figure. For a moment i thought; what would be the odds of me dating this girl? I dont have a problem talking to women of other cultures or women in general; so i figure the next time I see her around Im gonna see if i can strike up a convo. How about you fellow LS members do you base your decision of dating some one on skin color?
kymberann Posted October 6, 2007 Posted October 6, 2007 Generally not an issue with me when it comes to skin color. Culture or race might be a different thing. I am Caucasion dating a Latino. I am valso very white as I have vitiligo and he still does not seem to mind at how "white" I am! He is very dark and handsome. Does not seem to be an issue with him either!
amber1 Posted October 6, 2007 Posted October 6, 2007 It isn't a big factor at all but I do prefer someone with a little bit of a tan. I also prefer dark hair and brown eyes. By looking at my dating track record I tend to go for the Latin guys. I am light skinned myself but I have a various ethnic background...mostly Mediterranean and Eastern European.
maynard Posted October 6, 2007 Posted October 6, 2007 i am white and have only dated and been with white girls. that said, i am attracted to all kinds of women. i would easily date a woman of any color. the thing is that i really only have white friends and have always dated friends or through friends
quankanne Posted October 6, 2007 Posted October 6, 2007 skin color has been less an issue than attitude ... it's usually a great smile or outstanding sense of humor that's caught my attention more often than not. When I was in the dating pool, I went out with gringos, I went out with mejicanos and I went out with black guys. Basically I dated everyone. Except guys my age – they had to be older.
loverboy69 Posted October 6, 2007 Posted October 6, 2007 White and Latino(a) couples make the prettiest babies! The kids usually have a really nice complexion and nice skin color complimenting the best features of both races. If I had to be completely honest, I'd say I prefer white and latin men. (I'm gay). I've seen attractive black and asian men, but no matter how handsome they are, they don't really do anything sexually for me. I'm a Latino male myself with very light skin. I enjoy hitting the pool for a nice tan of my own. However, I do notice that the older I get, I'm less concerned with my physical "type," and value other qualities like leadership, compassion, assertiveness, honesty and confidence. When I was younger, it was all about the physical beauty of my intended target. I think many young gay males like myself are very superficial in our younger years because we were never taught to value the more important things due to a lack of positive role models.
Author analyseThis Posted October 6, 2007 Author Posted October 6, 2007 its good to see people posting such things; but i know that there are people who exclusively date only white or black or asian or w/e. This doesnt mean that their racist but it just means that thats their preference regarding the dating field. I also have met racist people who condone the white superiority race.
uniqueone Posted October 6, 2007 Posted October 6, 2007 I've only dated white guys. We have very few Latinos and Asians in area area. It's about 50% black and 50% white. Oops...remind me to tell you the reason why I've only dated whites....just looked at the clock and I have to go......
spookie Posted October 6, 2007 Posted October 6, 2007 I'm white and I'm attracted to everyone as long as have some physical features I like (nice eyes, broad shoulders, etc). That said, I've dated a bunch of white guys and currently a half-Hispanic. All the asian guys I've ever hit on didn't return my affections and sadly there are few black guys in my extended social circle.
uniqueone Posted October 7, 2007 Posted October 7, 2007 To finish my post....a large portion of the black men in my area tend to be the type yanking at their pants which are falling down and speaking in Ebonics. This group I definately wouldn't date. Other black men in my area are more well spoken (with some Ebonics thrown in) They dress decently and have decent jobs. But, underneath it all, they have an attitude that the system is against them and that they are owed special priviliges. I can't deal with that attitude so I don't date these ones. Then there are a TINY group of black men here that are well spoken (no Ebonics), have decent jobs, dress nicely and do not have an attitude that they are owed special priviliges. These men are perfectly fine. However, in my area, they're one in a million. But that's JUST my area. I'm sure if I went to somewhere like D.C. there would be MANY in this group. But in my area, just a handful. So, it's not that I wouldn't date a black person...it's other factors involved in the culture that I don't care for (such as those stated above). Some might see that comment and say "Oh...so you want a "white" black guy then....." [shrugs] I guess maybe that's one way to look at it.
Citizen Erased Posted October 7, 2007 Posted October 7, 2007 I have only ever dated white men. Not because I prefer them that way, I just live in an area which is predominately Caucasian, something which since I have gone overseas and worked in Sydney I have discovered is very rare.
va bene Posted October 7, 2007 Posted October 7, 2007 I'm from the midwest, most of the interracial relationships I see are between whites and Asians. Culturally similar I guess. Asians tend to be pretty puritan and their culture is rather generic like the west, not very "ethnic."
popey Posted October 7, 2007 Posted October 7, 2007 Skin color is a non-issue for me, especially since I live in a metropolitan area where people of all cultures, religions (on non), education and socio-economic class... blah blah (all the millions of catgories you can think of) they come in all shapes, sizes and colors here. which is great. The common culture thing however does deter the likelihood of certain match ups for me though (when I was in the dating pool). For instance, I wouldn't NOT date a Latino because he's latino or "brown" if that were the case. BUT, i will say that my experience has been that a fewer percentage of Latino men then other races, are likely to be a good match for me. As my experience is that there is there seems to be a higher incidence of old-school sexism remaining in this culture. Please understand that I am NOT judging an individual LATINO based on this. Everyone deserves to have the chance to show themselves for who they are individually. But I'm probably lying to myself if I said I don't do/think ANYTHING different based on the experience/perception of have of the larger culture. make sense? or am I being "bad"?
EYECANDY000 Posted October 7, 2007 Posted October 7, 2007 well ethnicity matters to me.. I am a black female and I only date mexican men or puero rican men.. I have dated black men n the past but it just seems they just dont do it for me. Ive never been burned by them so its not that I have animosity . I dont think I would date an african men,jamaican,chinese,korean,japenese, or indian.. dont want to sound harsh.. and no disrespect to the ethnicities that I have mentioned
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