jmp782 Posted October 5, 2007 Posted October 5, 2007 Hey all, I am a 25 year old grad student in the Opera program of a University in Kansas. anyway, there is this girl that I have been interested in for a while and she is also interested in my. Anyway, she has always been hot and cold...you know...one day she is really flirty and friendly, then the next day she is very distant or could care less when I say hi. Now, I know the drill and I am successsfulll, usually, when it comes to this sort of thing. Problem: I took her out this last monday and it went pretty well. Before that, she would alwasy play it cool aroudnd me, but then tell her friends that she is really into me and what not...(her friends really want her to go for it, so they tell me these things). Anyway, back to our date. It went well, dropped her off, kissed her good night and all that. Anyway, like I said..hot and cold.... She also has not had a lot of experience dating and is pretty shy/awkward around guys she is interested in. She would always say hi to me and what not this week, but was a little on the cold side. anway, she has always been like this, so I am nto worried. thing is, I am always the one to initiate things and she never really makes advances; all i get is her best friend saying that she is into me. what can I do? any advice? I am an honest, straightforward guy and this girl is great, but I can't jsut sit there and wait for her to not be nervous. Her being a little awkward is a little cute, but she has to start giving me somethign to work with. I dont' know if she is just playing that hard to get game or she is just that shy. I am just confused..because she was really excited when i took her out and was really happy when i kissed her....lol. also, she is a big home body...a lot fo tiems would rather hang at her house then go out......lol. any badvice would be appreciated. I am used to the way this whole thing works..but this girl is just hard to figure out.
Timberlane Posted October 5, 2007 Posted October 5, 2007 Hmmm. It's possible that this girl just isn't that self confident, so she keeps thinking negative things about herself and it brings her down. To you, it looks like she has gotten cold towards you, but it might be that she is just getting withdrawn. More sincere compliments, maybe? Not sure entirely. If your behind the scenes intelligence gathering is accurate, she sounds like she is into you. She just might not be into herself. You know what? My ex was a lot like this as well. It took a few months before she got sweet on me. It was hard to read her.
kymberann Posted October 6, 2007 Posted October 6, 2007 She is playing hard to get. It is part of the game. Either go with it and play or move along!
Timberlane Posted October 6, 2007 Posted October 6, 2007 Women who play advanced games like "hard to get" generally have some confidence and dating history. He says this girl is awkward around guys she likes and has little dating history, so I'm not convinced she is doing the tiresome hard to get routine.
Author jmp782 Posted October 7, 2007 Author Posted October 7, 2007 well, I made a decision. Here is what I'm gonna do. I am a straight forward, honest guy and when I really can't figure a person out, sometimes I just can't be myself around them because I am always wonderign whats going on with them. So, Next time I see her, I am going to as to do somethign simple...like a walk..and just be honest with her, lol. tell her I think she is an awesome girl, that I think she's beautiful, and let her know that I would like to get to know her better and then just flat out ask her her toughts on the subject. That way, is she is shy or overly careful, I will be making it clear that I want to take things slow and to show her that I am a good guy and I',m not looking for just oen thing. Also, if she is trying to play games(kind of doubt it) I will make it clear that I don't play that way and if she really is interested she'll lay off the games. Anyway, simple thing, really. What do ya'll think?
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