...Now all I can think is, when is he gonna' leave? Should I go on this date?...

[XxBacktoBlackXx]

Hi everyone. I posted previously about coping with a really bad abusive relationship I had been in in the past. Anyway, I've come to realize that I never really loved this man because it seems impossible to love such a cruel person. I was addicted to the "security" I felt I got from him, though my life was chaos with him in it. Anyway, since this time I've met a really amazing guy. We've really clicked. Right now we're friends but tomorrow we're going on a date. He likes me a lot and would like to be in a relationship. All I can think, though, if we do get in a relationship that just means I'll have another broken heart that I have to eventually mend... I can't get past this feeling. It's as if I would feel more safe being single my whole life than ever risking this hurt again. How do you get over this? Does this mean I shouldn't go on the date? I've been excited for it all week..

[hopeforlove243]

I think you are not ready for a relationship yet, but, it is just a date, so I would say go for it.

[underpants]

Hey,

 

You met somebody who is interested in you. That is nice.

 

I agree that you are probably not ready for a relationship, but a friend might be wonderful to have.

 

Go out with him and have a fun time. Don't look at him through the lens of your ex or measure him up for the job of boyfriend. Look at it as just an outing between friends.

 

Just have some fun. You deserve it.

 

(refrain from discussing the ex)

[Newtotheblogthing]

How long did it take you to "withdraw" from your ex? I know the feeling of being addicted to the security regardless of it being abusive or unhealthy. I am REALLY struggling tonight.

[XxBacktoBlackXx]

I think you guys were right...I think maybe I did need more time? Now I feel like I'm in so deep and I've already gotten a little bit hurt. This is hard to explain...