JerzeyShore Posted October 5, 2007 Posted October 5, 2007 Hey there! I'm new and I'd thought I'd share my story and quite possibly get some insight and advice! My bf had broken up with me in June out of the blue because he said he didn't want to be in a serious relationship. He said I didn't do anything wrong and it wasn't my fault, it was all him. He was confused with what he wanted. It hit me hard because I had never cared for anyone as much as I did for him. He told me that I changed him for the better and that everybody was upset at him for doing this, including his parents. We didn't talk for a good month, month and a half until the middle of August when there was this stag that we both went too. Now at this stag, he hugged me when he saw me, sat and talked with my parents all night, let me hold his niece, flirted with me and everything. At the end of the stag both me and him were just standing out near his car when he hugged me again, and I told him we should go for coffee sometime which he kinda agreed. I then told him that he was drunk and he'd forget anyways. His reply was "I'm not drunk! Ask me anything!" So of all things, I asked him if he was back on drugs. I really needed to know this just for my sanity. He looked at me and said "No, I'm not. You know that." and proceeded to wrap his arms around my waist and pull me in for a big hug. Hmm...weird. When I left he hugged me a couple more times too. So since that night I've heard from him (or seen him, he showed up at work randomly once) at least once a week. The day he showed up at work he was with some friends of ours and they all asked me to go out and hang out with them that night. Well I did, and he ignored me. I was like what the hell. So I left and went out with my friends. The next day my friend calls me and he's with her. She yells over her shoulder "when are you going to go for coffee with?" and he's like "I don't know!" Kinda annoyed. At that point, I was like screw it. I'm done with you. Fast foward a week later, Sept 2. I was going out that night to a bar when he randomly msgs me and decides to go on webcam (for whatever reason). He asks me what I'm doing tonight and I tell him where I'm going. We talk a little bit more and he ends with "I'll probalbly see you there tonight." I'm like ok, whatever. He never showed. The next day he msg's me again and asks me what I'm up too. It's a short little conversation but a conversation nevertheless. A week later on the 10th I have my doctor's appointment. I don't know how the hell he found out, but he did and the next day he msgs me and asks me about it. I tell him what's wrong and he was all worried. Fast forward again to a couple weeks ago when out of the blue he asks me to go for coffee with him. So I do. And I figure we'd be going to a sit down coffee but no. We get the coffee and we drive down near the river where we sit in his car and talk for almost two hours. I don't understand what he's doing or what he's trying to do lol We didn't talk about anything important, like feelings or anything but I don't know....maybe this is his way of slowly coming back into the picture?? I have no idea. And some of the things he was telling me was just weird, how he went to a bar and there was this skanky girl there and he said he felt so uncomfortable around her. And he got a little jealous when I told my friend had bought me a drink at the bar. Since that coffee though, I haven't heard from him. So now, I really don't know what to think.
Sanslatete Posted October 8, 2007 Posted October 8, 2007 Sounds like a bit of a mind - **** to me. I'd steer clear if I were you Jerzey if you don't want your mind/heart messed with. He sounds like a bit of a manipulator and you'll only get hurt more if you let him play his games.
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