halfhumain Posted October 5, 2007 Posted October 5, 2007 Hey, I was browsing the web looking for some help/advice when i came across this forum. Well, here's my story. A month ago my girlfriend and I took a break from each other after being together for two years. We both just started college and she said she wasnt ready to be in a serious relationship and she wanted to be "free" I guess. I gave her her space and stopped talking to her. I was really saddened and didn't know what to do. We talked here and there but nothing big. A couple weeks later she calls me and says she wants to talk. She comes over to my house crying and said she made the biggest mistake of her life by breaking up with me. She said she couldnt eat, go to school, study or do anything for that matter, all she could do was think of me and how she misses me. ALSO she said she missed me so much and thought I wouldnt take her back so she got a little bit closer with some guy she met at work to. She said they just hung out together and made out with him here and there, nothing serious, so basically he was a rebound and didnt mean anything to her. That i am the one she wants to be with. I told her if she wants to get back together she would have to call him and tell him she doesnt want to see him ever again nor be friends, so she did. Now it's been 3 days that were back together and I was wondering if I did the right thing. how do i know she want see him behind my back? or do something stupid. How do i trust her again, or should i trust her at all? What should I do..?
finallyhappyme Posted October 5, 2007 Posted October 5, 2007 Hmm...Maybe she wanted to get to know this guy so she broke up with you to be 'free' and after hanging out with him and kissing whatever she realized he wasn't worth loosing you over and now she wants you back? When a person breaks up with you because they need space and want to be 'free' then thats what it is. They might get lonely and forget why they left in the first place and beg you back into their lives only to feel trapped again later on and leave again. But I digress, if you love her and she has never cheated on you before then I would just take it one day at a time. And you have to think that she told you all about this guy because she could have begged for you to come back into her life without even mentioning this other guy to you, but she did. Take it day by day but keep your guard up for a while.
Author halfhumain Posted October 5, 2007 Author Posted October 5, 2007 At first I thought that she might've broken up with me to get to know this guy better but I really doubt it. She told me she didnt want to be in a relationship so she could go out with friends, drink go to clubs stuff like that and what happened between her and the guy was an accident and she didnt plan on it happening. When we were together I didnt like her going out drinking with her friends or having guy friends and I think i was a bit too "controlling" wich lead to the break-up. She has never cheated on me but now shes at school and she has lots of guy friends ( many that i know) is that normal? Should i be worried? She calls me all the time and i see her everyday but im just worried that she might find some other guy to replace me "again" or that she might talk to him behind my back. I'm really stressing over this and its really bothering me. I dont know what to do. I do want to trust her and be with her but I cant stop thinking negatively that she MIGHT be with some guy right now not telling me or on the phone with some dude. I think I might be paranoid.. help!!!
finallyhappyme Posted October 5, 2007 Posted October 5, 2007 Thats so cute..I think it's normal in the begining of an LDR ( long distance relationship) to feel a little insecure but that just means you care about your gf and your relationship. You just have to really let her know that if she wants to be with you this time she has to be sure. If she's never lied to you before and she told you about this guy without having to because you guys were broken up. If she's calling you and treating you the same way I don't think you have anything to worry about. Maybe this last mistake was all she needed to know your all she wants.
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