Omma Posted October 4, 2007 Posted October 4, 2007 i did NC for nearly 2 weeks, he called me on monday inviting to go out for lunch, i said i was busy, And everything was perfect, i dont know why im so impulsive that he didnt call tuesday or wednesday and i called him , and just started crying telling him again and again all of his faults etc etc, so i spooked him away and he said" i think im not doing you any good, so we better not talk anymore",i cant even explain how im feeling all because of my horrible impulsive caracter i blew it all once again, i was going perfect, made myself look independet etc, and just 2 days no patience and bursted.Pleaseeeeeeeeeeeee tell me what to do.im 25 for godsake, i cant beelive i dont have 2 days patience.
Author Omma Posted October 5, 2007 Author Posted October 5, 2007 i cant beleive theres noone there to say something,
Reactor Posted October 5, 2007 Posted October 5, 2007 i cant beleive theres noone there to say something, Don't worry I was the same. This is the same for everyone, mostly. Especially if you were deep into the relationship. Funny thing is, my ex-gf said the exact same stuff to me 'You shouldn't be saying this to me' etc etc. All I can say is that, he should be doing you a favour and not contacting you at all. Its not fair on you, you can't blame yourself for your behaivour because its only natural when you've been with someone you really like or love to want to tell them how you feel when they aren't in your life anymore. If he has just walked away from your relationship doesn't that tell you something? He shouldn't of contacted you at all. I sugguest you put his number on block or just don't answer the phone when he rings you. Or, tell him that you can't do this and that he mustn't call you. If he continues then he is the one with the problem. Like my ex, these type of people often think that you can go from a relationship straight to friends and 9/10 thats complete rubbish. If you loved or deeply cared for your partner you would want space too. These people often use their ex's when they are the dumper to help themselves get over the relationship and make themselves feel less guilty, then when I new person comes along. *POOF* they rarely want to talk to you and if they do its only in 'passing'. Do yourself a favour, stop blaming yourself for losing control. Its a feeling and its good you feel this way because it shows you can. In your next relationship (there will be a next one) you will know more about yourself so next time you can keep these sorts of feelings controlled. Honestly though, it doesn't matter how 'impulsive' you are after a relationship is over, its finished and if your impulsiveness pushes him away, well you've lost nothing you didn't have before anyway. Except the emotional turmoil of having to put up with your ex tugging at your heart strings and prolonging the healing process. Stop being so hard on yourself girl!! - Reactor
marty Posted October 5, 2007 Posted October 5, 2007 i agree. my god, you should've been a fly on the wall during my breakup. cringeworthy stuff. looking back i get cold shivers lol, and i'm 35 for pete's sake. dont be so hard on yourself. it shows you have a big heart. take pride in that. you'll learn from it and be a stronger person for the NEXT person that comes along. you have enough to deal with emotionally at the moment without adding feeling bad about yourself too. take care, and concentrate on yourself now.
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