Msblueyes Posted October 4, 2007 Posted October 4, 2007 I could not sleep last night. When I finally did, somewhere around 2 a.m. I went into the dream sleep. I remember in my dream that I got into a terrible fight with a girl who My STBX was seeing. Her name in my dream was Liz. We had the most major cat fight in this dream ever. In fact it seemed to be in a room with people I knew & my bf & this woman. I woke up feeling really weird. He moves out tomorrow. I do not know anyone named Liz. Could my women's intuition be right? In the past, probably a good six years ago, I told him some names (when he was on drugs & cheating) of women that I felt he had been with. Came to find out, I was correct. Does the break up stress bring on so much mental confusion that we're receptive to things we don't know about? HELP!!!
Teach28 Posted October 4, 2007 Posted October 4, 2007 I'm not sure- but I am sort of like that. I often have dreams about people who are no longer going to be in my life. Like when I'm about to go through a breakup or lose a friend they appear in a dream-- woman's intuition is all I can think to explain it.
Krying Posted October 4, 2007 Posted October 4, 2007 This past weekend when my breakup was only days old, I had 3 amazing dreams about my ex. I can only remember one vividly though. It was so nice, and so real, I knew when I was dreaming, that I was... dreaming. Weird. Nothing happened apart from her being with me again and simply holding my hand, caressing me etc., and saying she was sorry. It was so sweet and tender. I'm not sure if I woke up crying, but it felt as real as anything I've experienced in my life. For the couch psychologists, this is either a premonition, or simply wishful thinking on my part. Since then I've had no more dreams. The other two were pretty much the same in the sense of how I was feeling.
Bosiell Posted October 4, 2007 Posted October 4, 2007 A relationship from many years ago now left me dreaming of being back with an ex many many times, it pretty much became a habbit. Even dreamt that I woke up and realised it wasnt a dream, even tho it was, if that makes sense! Not at all nice when I woke up to reality. Hoping and praying that I dont fall into that habbit with my latest ex. In my dreams I'm jealous all the time As I wake I'm going out of my mind Going out of my mind Moby, Porcelain.
MartianChronicles Posted October 5, 2007 Posted October 5, 2007 right after the breakup, i dreamed of my ex bf every night. we weren't doing nothing special, just hangin' round, going on a ride, things like that. then it stopped, and i felt a huge relief it started again the othen night: i dreamed i was leaving for milan (that's where he lives), i was carrying a heavy suitcase and kept thinking i would never make it on time to catch the train. last night i dreamed we had a fight and i told him to go f**k off.
sao2 Posted October 5, 2007 Posted October 5, 2007 Last night I had a series of dreams about meeting NEW people. I met one like the ex and decided NO. It I woke up feeling great.
ijustwannago Posted October 8, 2007 Posted October 8, 2007 YUCK!! i hate the dreams. they will become fewer and fewer (i hope) so i was wondering msblueeyes how was it this weekend?
Author Msblueyes Posted October 8, 2007 Author Posted October 8, 2007 YUCK!! i hate the dreams. they will become fewer and fewer (i hope) so i was wondering msblueeyes how was it this weekend? I hate the dreams too. Well, he was supposed to move out Friday, decided not to, payed his half of the rent (which was certainly responsible) and I went out for the evening with a girlfriend of mine. It has been quite a week and I need to get out, without him. Had a great time, found my girlfriend, who I had met back in the spring was just as much fun as myself & we had a great time. I came home in a great mood and went to bed. Saturday, I was still kind of reeling from my week and girlfriend came over, we had a few beers & just hung out. I ended up going back to bed (beer tired). He came home from work and wanted to take my car for a drive, I told him no. We've been through this in the past. He doesn't pay for my insurance nor the vehicle and I can't afford to have him have an accident in it leaving me responsible, ultimately. He also didn't seem in a good mood. He's taken my car before (long past & oh god, I just don't want to go into that one) and there have been problems. So he took off walking (fine), got drunk, lost his money and I had to pick him up at 3 in the morning in the worst part of town. He looked very remorse, told me of his evening and went to bed. Yesterday morning, he told me about how he lost his cash. No wonder he came home & got sick. Well, if it's true, now there's a reason not to carry cash while going out drinking! Only take a little...when it's gone, you're done drinking. We live in town so there's no need to drive, & no DUI possibilities. He lost just under $400. Hard for me to believe but maybe? He didn't give me back the $350 two weeks ago when we started fighting...I'm keeping the rent half that he gave me & putting it to my credit card bill. That, was my weekend. I'm feeling a bit better having gone out with the girls. To anyone in terrible pain, go out with your girlfriends and have some fun. No, it doesn't take away the years of love you've given someone, but it does get you out of the house and when you're out, you see other people out, men & women...it's a little hope for love in the future. By no means am I over anything yet, but getting out & dancing, drinking, eating beats the heck out of staying home crying. Oh, he called me three times while I was out. I didn't hear phone, was having fun. I guess he felt left out but I had no reason to bring him along, the weekend before he had only ignored me. Thoughts?
ijustwannago Posted October 8, 2007 Posted October 8, 2007 "Well, he was supposed to move out Friday, decided not to, payed his half of the rent (which was certainly responsible)" did you have a say in this? "He came home from work and wanted to take my car for a drive, I told him no. We've been through this in the past. He doesn't pay for my insurance nor the vehicle and I can't afford to have him have an accident in it leaving me responsible, ultimately. He also didn't seem in a good mood. He's taken my car before" HELL NOOO!! "He lost just under $400. Hard for me to believe but maybe? He didn't give me back the $350 two weeks ago when we started fighting...I'm keeping the rent half that he gave me & putting it to my credit card bill." not the brightest bulb huh?? you don't think he is using again? i hope not... Oh boy.. I'm glad you went out with the girls. i don't know what i would do if i didn't have mine! he has GOT TO MOVE OUT!!! it's going to be so volatile untill he does. you better set some ground rules. think about how you will feel if he brings someone home? DO not give him ANY money. DO not let him use your car. I'd also start showing the place and looking for a new female roomate asap. that will help you to take control of your situation and let him know that you expect his to be out at the end of the month PERIOD! I remember years ago when my ex husband threatened me with 'leaving' I got real calm and said would you like me to pack your blue or black suit? i will NEVER convince someone that wants out that they want anthing else other than for it to end. F' um!!
Author Msblueyes Posted October 8, 2007 Author Posted October 8, 2007 I knew that where he was supposed to go, they didn't really want him. I told him he could stay, but must pay. I have only a one bedroom apartment in a big old house that's divided into four units. I could have a friend with a bed off the kitchen, but otherwise, it would be the couch...so don't know about the feasability of long term roomate. Well, even I know me enough to know that I do not take more cash out with me than I can afford...being that I've lost my atm card, cc, cash, when I've gotten trashed...I just know better on that for sure! It'd better to just pay my tab ahead of time & then I know when I'm done, I'm home & no cash lost! Bars wait on you to lose your cash or credit card. LOL As for using, I hope not. It was strange/coincidental I'll say. He was gone for 3.5 hours...god only knows, but my $ that he gave me is out of the house. Put gas in the car & the rest in the bank. As they say, "I'm broke honey!" I've got some oatmeal in the fridge.
ijustwannago Posted October 8, 2007 Posted October 8, 2007 you sound great! that's cool that you are in a one bdroom. i thought you might need to have a roommate. I'm in a two. i love it. that's totally true i at one time lost my keys in an evening. that was awful. thank goodness he gave you rent $$$ before he left the house. lol it makes me smile to know that he has to sleep on the couch. hey i got ramen if you want to come by for lunch lol.. how is your heart doing today?
Author Msblueyes Posted October 8, 2007 Author Posted October 8, 2007 you sound great! that's cool that you are in a one bdroom. i thought you might need to have a roommate. I'm in a two. i love it. that's totally true i at one time lost my keys in an evening. that was awful. thank goodness he gave you rent $$$ before he left the house. lol it makes me smile to know that he has to sleep on the couch. hey i got ramen if you want to come by for lunch lol.. how is your heart doing today? I got the apt. when he went into rehab...not cheap, it's under $900 a month, but I live downtown & I make the best of it! Well, ya know...he made the ramen pizza one day for me...I think the noodles are ok just by themselves! (smile)....I cried so much last week...I kinda have myself cried out for the time being in regards to the heart. But when I picked him up early Sunday morning, drunk & lost...he looked so freaked out & turned around..then sad...then told me, "look what you made me do?" I was like, huh? "you got mad, wanted the car keys, I said no, you left (a good move, I might add) and I went to bed....I made him get drunk & lose his money.....oh boy...the guilt...not....a good reminder to me on how not to lose money when I decided to drown my sorrows...
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