miss nikki Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 i just found out my exboyfriend's younger brother passed away tues. i live in a very small town so everyone knows everyone. i grew up right down the street from my ex, we went to school together, and got together in college for a few months but broke up at the end of last year. we just recently started running into eachother a lot through mutual friends. that summer we spent together i also spent a lot of time with his family including his brother. i am really upset...just shocked. he was just such a nice funny kid. im an only child and he was exactly what i would have wanted in a brother. at the same time i feel selfish for feeling this way when his family must be hurting so much more. i dont know what i should do about the funeral...i wanted to get some advice...should i go? Link to post Share on other sites
LakesideDream Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 Not a difficult decision. There are two good reasons to go. First to show condolence and respect to the family, second, if you have the personal need to say goodbyes, and show personal condolence. Don't go if it makes you to uncomfortable. There are other ways to show your condolences. Link to post Share on other sites
LoveDeluxe78 Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 Not a difficult decision. There are two good reasons to go. First to show condolence and respect to the family, second, if you have the personal need to say goodbyes, and show personal condolence. Don't go if it makes you to uncomfortable. There are other ways to show your condolences. Great advice! I agree. You should go if you were close to his brother and it doesn't make you uncomfortable. If it does, you can send flowers to show your personal condolences. Link to post Share on other sites
oppath Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 I think it is appropriate to go for the visitation in the funeral home but not to the actual burial. Link to post Share on other sites
gerrygirl Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 When i think back to all of my ex's siblings it puts a huge smile on my face, I'm sure thats what you are feeling now. You have to go for you. When someone dies it's not about ex's or past relationships, but more about those who have touched you in your life. The idea of this guy being an ex doesn't really matter, at this point he's just a guy thats hurting and i'm sure he would appreciate you there. Link to post Share on other sites
Jmina Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 well would you regret it if you didnt go? Link to post Share on other sites
Amy12345678 Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 Unless the family wouldn't want you there, then you should got o say your goodbyes. Link to post Share on other sites
Author miss nikki Posted October 4, 2007 Author Share Posted October 4, 2007 i just wanted to thank you for the advice. i think im going to go. i want to be there support my ex and his family and get some closure myself. i have been a mess and i think it will help. thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
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