Wow, women are pure evil

October 5, 2007

I'm not evil - I'm the devil..

Seriously.... you need to move on... who cares what your ex and her friend say about you...

You sound bitter and that keeps you from moving on... you say

I pushed my ex away due to being needy, clingy you've all heard or done this.

Well that is exactly what I feel from your post.. you are emotionally needy... and it seems to me that you are blaming others for your problem.

I was always nice, never a prick and she just walks off and doesn't give a crap.

She's not here to tell her side of the story...

Just forget about her, move on... who needs that kind of childish crap in their life. How old are you btw?

I have read some of this persons posts and they all seem very negative towards men in general. Some kinda man hater? ignore this person.

as for krying:

What was the real reason she left you? or did she not provide any? If she just dumped you and moved on and gave you the cold shoulder; then that must tell you something. Shes not worth your feelings or your thoughts. Keep your head up man; things will brighten up. For every cloudy day theres a sunny day.

October 5, 2007

I have read some of this persons posts and they all seem very negative towards men in general. Some kinda man hater? ignore this person.

as for krying:

What was the real reason she left you? or did she not provide any? If she just dumped you and moved on and gave you the cold shoulder; then that must tell you something. Shes not worth your feelings or your thoughts. Keep your head up man; things will brighten up. For every cloudy day theres a sunny day.

No reason given. She was distant for awhile. I knew something was bothering her. Then she's snap out of it, say she was sorry and be all affectionate. But it didn't last long. When I tried to express my concern something was wrong, she'd say I have nothing to worry about and that I worried to much. I replied I worry because I care that things seem not insync.

In the end, she just stopped being around, stopped returning my calls. When I spoke with her father to tell him I felt something was wrong, he revealed she wanted to end things, but wanted to give it sometime. Knowing she was having panic attacks etc. due to "external pressures", I ended the relationship. According to her Dad, I was not part of these external pressures, so I felt I was helping her and giving her that space. But it seems this is exactly what she wanted. She didn't have to seem like the bad guy to end things.

She seems happy and appears she doesn't give a crap about me. I feel very hurt. I gave her up to keep her. I posted last evening about my ex and a mutual friend who betrayed me bring highly critical, demeaning and so on about me. The father found out and is very angry. Both her mother and father love me and want this to work. Everyone I know does. But at this point she does not. She's been poisoned by someone or something and this mutual "friend" likes to give her advice. It's starting to come together that this friend polluted her mind and made me undesirable in her mind. Clearly she lends her ears to the wrong people.

Anyway, I have nothing as to a reason why. Nor will she speak with me even claiming she feels uncomfortable. More likely guilty. She knew what she was doing was morally wrong and her body was telling her that with these panic attacks. They have come at times in her life when she's unhappy and other such pressures. She was not unhappy with me. In fact many people said they never seen her happier.

October 5, 2007

No reason given. She was distant for awhile. I knew something was bothering her. Then she's snap out of it, say she was sorry and be all affectionate. But it didn't last long. When I tried to express my concern something was wrong, she'd say I have nothing to worry about and that I worried to much. I replied I worry because I care that things seem not insync.

In the end, she just stopped being around, stopped returning my calls. When I spoke with her father to tell him I felt something was wrong, he revealed she wanted to end things, but wanted to give it sometime. Knowing she was having panic attacks etc. due to "external pressures", I ended the relationship. According to her Dad, I was not part of these external pressures, so I felt I was helping her and giving her that space. But it seems this is exactly what she wanted. She didn't have to seem like the bad guy to end things.

She seems happy and appears she doesn't give a crap about me. I feel very hurt. I gave her up to keep her. I posted last evening about my ex and a mutual friend who betrayed me bring highly critical, demeaning and so on about me. The father found out and is very angry. Both her mother and father love me and want this to work. Everyone I know does. But at this point she does not. She's been poisoned by someone or something and this mutual "friend" likes to give her advice. It's starting to come together that this friend polluted her mind and made me undesirable in her mind. Clearly she lends her ears to the wrong people.

Anyway, I have nothing as to a reason why. Nor will she speak with me even claiming she feels uncomfortable. More likely guilty. She knew what she was doing was morally wrong and her body was telling her that with these panic attacks. They have come at times in her life when she's unhappy and other such pressures. She was not unhappy with me. In fact many people said they never seen her happier.

^^^ This is all a delusional state of mind, if things were great there would be no breakup plain and simple. Regardless of what friends or parents have or have not said in this situation to try to help or make matters worse.

She had likely been contemplating this for some time before hand, you were just too nice about everything it seems and now you are shifting that same nice mentality into post relationship coping and it's blinding you into not seeing she's moved on and why.

You are also trying to justify why others seem cold about your being "Nice"? Well then either you've drawn the devil to your specific thread as it seems OR what people are trying to tell you is there is a difference between being nice and being a total doormat to be walked all over 'Like she did in this situation'. You should take this as a learning experience if anything, and next time do things differently.

October 5, 2007

^^^ This is all a delusional state of mind, if things were great there would be no breakup plain and simple. Regardless of what friends or parents have or have not said in this situation to try to help or make matters worse.

She had likely been contemplating this for some time before hand, you were just too nice about everything it seems and now you are shifting that same nice mentality into post relationship coping and it's blinding you into not seeing she's moved on and why.

You are also trying to justify why others seem cold about your being "Nice"? Well then either you've drawn the devil to your specific thread as it seems OR what people are trying to tell you is there is a difference between being nice and being a total doormat to be walked all over 'Like she did in this situation'. You should take this as a learning experience if anything, and next time do things differently.

That's incorrect. Things were as good as you could get. I wish I had done something stupid, made her angry or pissed her off. Then I could know I actually did something, and it would be a lot simpler to grasp the "why". As it stands there is no reason. The only reason I have gotten and I have not spoke with her is "external pressures". Try and dissect that. Apparently I'm not even included in those external pressures. So if I was not the cause of her ending the relationship, what or who was?

October 5, 2007

That's incorrect. Things were as good as you could get. I wish I had done something stupid, made her angry or pissed her off. Then I could know I actually did something, and it would be a lot simpler to grasp the "why". As it stands there is no reason. The only reason I have gotten and I have not spoke with her is "external pressures". Try and dissect that. Apparently I'm not even included in those external pressures. So if I was not the cause of her ending the relationship, what or who was?

You're trying to discern why someone doesn't want to be with you. Attraction isn't logical so it's very hard for someone to explain why they like someone or why they don't.

Women are attracted to how a man makes them feel. It has much less to do with looks and much more to do with personality. (Confidence, sense of humor, self-respect, etc).

Odds are you didn't make her feel the way she wanted to feel in a relationship so she broke it off.

Big deal.

We aren't meant to be compatible with everyone we meet in life. Yeah it's a bummer the relationship didn't work out but the best way to look at it is be THANKFUL. Now you are free to meet the right woman instead of staying with the wrong one.

October 5, 2007

I agree with replicant and CaliGuy.

You can justify it to yourself all you want, but it doesn't matter if the parents love you and want it to work, if one half of a partnership wants out, they want out.

Most likely all her parents want is for her to be happy- they do have HER best interests at heart after all, just as your parents have yours at heart.

If things were 100% happy and great as you say they were, then there wouldn't have been a breakup.

This speaks for itself.

You can't always rationalise why someone is no longer that into you. it happens. move on, you are young, you will meet someone else... someone that will appreciate you for who you are. You may even get your heart broken again before you meet the "one."

Its all part of life and love.

October 5, 2007

You know that reminds me, my ex's mom stayed actively involved in our lives after we separated. In other words, my ex's mom wanted our relationship to work out more than my ex did, so she kept herself involved and kept me hanging around longer than I should have. When I broke off the relationship with her parents it made it a lot easier to move on. Yes, I miss them and yes, I think their intentions were good -- but not healthy for me.

Break off the relationship with her family. They aren't your immediate family and the longer you continue a relationship with them the longer it will take you to heal.

October 5, 2007

I agree with replicant and CaliGuy.

You can justify it to yourself all you want, but it doesn't matter if the parents love you and want it to work, if one half of a partnership wants out, they want out.

Most likely all her parents want is for her to be happy- they do have HER best interests at heart after all, just as your parents have yours at heart.

If things were 100% happy and great as you say they were, then there wouldn't have been a breakup.
This speaks for itself.

You can't always rationalise why someone is no longer that into you. it happens. move on, you are young, you will meet someone else... someone that will appreciate you for who you are. You may even get your heart broken again before you meet the "one."

Its all part of life and love.

That's the main sticking part for me at the moment. For me, it was 100% working. I was happy. For her obviously not. Why? I do no know. She broke it off. Clearly she was not happy with something. But don't insinuate that I knew things were not right. Actions speak for themselves. She broke it off, and she was not happy. I didn't know this. In fact by all accounts she had never been this happy in a relationship. If you're confused about this as much as I am, then we are in agreement. Nothing makes sense to me.

Please understand when I say that at my end there was nothing wrong. How can I feel any differently then? I have not called her, I have not emailed her, I have not texted her. I have spoken with her father. He is distressed greatly over this and cannot workout why this happened. But something did happen at her end. I have stopped speaking to her father about us. There is nothing more I can do, and there is nothing her father can do either. It ended and will always be a mystery.

October 5, 2007

That's the main sticking part for me at the moment. For me, it was 100% working. I was happy. For her obviously not. Why? I do no know. She broke it off. Clearly she was not happy with something. But don't insinuate that I knew things were not right. Actions speak for themselves. She broke it off, and she was not happy. I didn't know this. In fact by all accounts she had never been this happy in a relationship. If you're confused about this as much as I am, then we are in agreement. Nothing makes sense to me.

I can understand why you are confused but again, it simply goes back to her actions. Her actions say she wants to be with someone else and does not coincide with what she said at the time you are dating. Are you looking for a reason? If so, she may never be able to give you one.

Please understand when I say that at my end there was nothing wrong. How can I feel any differently then? I have not called her, I have not emailed her, I have not texted her. I have spoken with her father. He is distressed greatly over this and cannot workout why this happened. But something did happen at her end. I have stopped speaking to her father about us. There is nothing more I can do, and there is nothing her father can do either. It ended and will always be a mystery.

It's hard to move on, but you need to. The only way to have a bright future is to not invest any of your time in the past. What is done is done and can not be changed.

October 6, 2007

First of all, I am a female who has been with some 'hard guys'..by that i mean guys who are goodlooking, not too nice etc..NEVERTHELESS, i prefer a nice guy anyday, someone who is SENSITIVE to my feelings.

From the posts, my impression is that you think 'being nice' is wrong...i wonder how old your ex is, but trust me, no one wants a husband (in reference to the future) who is not a nice guy. Its a very immature and high school way to think, that being a nice guy, being sensitive to feelings of your partner is being 'needy' or clingy.

fOR cying out loud, if you are really really into someone, you would feel flattered that the person cared so much about you. Love is not about rules, love is about loving the imperfect person. Why should a guy try to act tough and hide his emotions from his girl, all in a bid to 'appear tough'! of course no one should be a wimp , but i totally understand where the person who started the link is coming from!

I am going thru a breakup. We argued sometimes and he is sensitive, (or so i thot) so am i. Nothing serious, just petty. He travlled home for about 3weeks, and graudally became more distant. He would contact people and not conact me, my gut feeling could sense somethin was wrong and i panicked. I started calling him, asking what was wrong.he kept on saying 'nothing'. obviously somethingwas wrong. On a normal day, i would not give him more than 1 missed call, this time i was calling and calling, simply cos i wanted him to tell me wat was wrong, i wanted to sort everythn out. sIMPly cos i cared so muc h for him and did not want our relationship to fall apart cos of minor issues. We broke up, and even after writting a letter about everythin that cud be 'possibly wrong' in a relationhsip, he was not willng to work anything out, not willing to give anything a go.

The person i thot was so sensitive to my feelings has not bothered to contact me!! Now i wish he was a nice guy!!

I dont know the whole story, started off in this link, all i can say is..your a good guy..a lot of femeales out there are looking for people like you. Dont change because someone does not appreciate you! dont change cos someone does not appreciate your good triats. Ppl repay good wiuth evil..u showed her so much care and she left!just like that......i find it selfish, when ppl just leave, they dont wanna talk.

She may have met someone else...cos i dont understand how someone would just fall out of love overnight. Maybe she was thinkin of leaving ,fr a while.

Anyway, you ned to move on. trust me, you should not be too nice,i mean like a doormat, but you sounds nothin like that!

so dont feel bad for being a good guy. she will start to appreciate you wen she gets her heart broken by some 'tough guy'!!

goodluck and stay strong!!

October 6, 2007