uniqueone Posted October 4, 2007 Posted October 4, 2007 Why is it that when you're just trying to get through the day....just barely coping...people have to make your day even worse? Of course there's non-stop problems I'm dealing with during the workday but that's kind of a good thing though....it keeps my mind busy. I'm not sure how much sense this will make as it's a little vaguely written but here are a few things that happened recently that just makes me sick of people.......... First situation: This manager (let's call him Bill) comes in yesterday and starts asking me (again) about a problem that involves my expertise only this is for something non-work related. At fiirst when he used to do it, I had no problem answering his questions. Now I've become his personal assistant...unpaid of course. I can be swamped with work but he's oblivious to it and wants to talk about his personal stuff. At first when he did it, it seemed more of a friendly talk. Now, it seems more planned. In other words, now I know that he's talking to me for the reason that he wants my help....not just to be friendly. Second situation: For the last two weeks our office has been freezing.....so cold that you can't concentrate. Other parts of the building are fine though. The head of maintenance works in the same office at Bill (at different company than mine but in the same building). We'll call the maintenance manager Mike. I'd left several Mike messages and never got called back. I know others had left Mike messages about it too. I'd mentioned the problem to Bill and he said he'd pass it along when he saw Mike. When I contacted Bill again saying that Mike still never got back with me, Bill pretty much said that was all that he could do. Great. So I help Bill out with his personal stuff and when I need his help--which is work-related--he can't help me. Today, I run into Mike....the maintenance manager....in person. (I was doing some work in Mike and Bills office today.) I tell him we're freezing in my office. He says he was just up there and he thought it felt fine. I told him to go to my dept. since not all depts are freezing. Mike comes back and asks me if it's so cold, why do I have my fan on? Actually he said: "I just went up there and you have a fan on. Now, explain why you have a fan on. I'm just not getting that through to my high school brain?" (all said very sarcastically). He's right. I DO have a fan on. Only it's pointed at my doorway. Reason I have a fan on is because it blocks out noise. See...I have a guy who sits across from me who talks out loud to himself from the minute he comes in till the time he leaves and I can't concentrate. I didn't want to tell the maintenance mgr. that because I didn't want it to get back to my coworker and then he'd get into a snit. I told the maintenance guy that the fan blocks out noise and that it's not anywhere near me. (it also doesn't play any part in cooling the air!) His attitude with me really upset me. I'd just seen him be all friendly to some other women the other day. I guess because they flirted with him. I guess I should have done that......not good at it though. Third situation: I do this female "friend" at work a favor by doing something for her that she couldn't do herself because she's not that technical and it was personal, not business-related. She didn't ask me to....I just did it to be nice because she's had some stuff going on with her home life and I thought it would cheer her up. I did this yesterday and told her I'd do the other one for her today. I emailed the other thing to her today and got a "Thanks.....oh hey could you make me a......." She wanted me to make her something (using work materials) for her home now. Suddenly I had this bad feeling. She sees me as someone to take advantage of. She's not really a friend. She figured she could now ask for more. I guess it shouldn't surprise me. Her home life is a mess because she's caused a lot of it. She's used to getting what she wants because she's pretty and has a flirty personality and she knows how to work it. But considering I was feeling kind of low to begin with, this all just made me feel worse. I think this is why I'd rather just avoid people. But you can't do that at work. Actually usually I can handle it but lately too much is just annoying me and how are you supposed to deal with being annoyed at work? I mean...being freezing cold and having someone talking to themselves all day......it's enough to make me scream lately.....if my teeth weren't chattering, that is......
Author uniqueone Posted October 4, 2007 Author Posted October 4, 2007 The world seems to be against you. You know, I knew I shouldn't have posted here. It's stuff like this.... People who have to do this kind of stuff must be really miserable and that's why they have to make others feel bad. You follow my threads around.....and that's just odd. You don't know how depressed a person might be and you don't know what comments like yours might do. You have made me feel unwelcome at LS and I have never done anything to you. This must give you pleasure in some way. You have made tears come to my eyes now and I'm at work. I hope this has made you happy now. This was the only place I had to come to discuss things. Thank you for no longer making me feel welcome here.
lovelorcet Posted October 4, 2007 Posted October 4, 2007 Wow... All that from one sentence? And now all of these issues are my fault? You know, I knew I shouldn't have posted here. It's stuff like this.... People who have to do this kind of stuff must be really miserable and that's why they have to make others feel bad. You follow my threads around.....and that's just odd. You don't know how depressed a person might be and you don't know what comments like yours might do. You have made me feel unwelcome at LS and I have never done anything to you. This must give you pleasure in some way. You have made tears come to my eyes now and I'm at work. I hope this has made you happy now. This was the only place I had to come to discuss things. Thank you for no longer making me feel welcome here.
Star Gazer Posted October 5, 2007 Posted October 5, 2007 Actually usually I can handle it but lately too much is just annoying me and how are you supposed to deal with being annoyed at work? Most of us don't have the luxury of never getting annoyed at work. Ya just gotta shake it off and not take it personally.
melodymatters Posted October 5, 2007 Posted October 5, 2007 Give the chick a break guys, she's just venting, not asking for monetary donations or comparing herself to an ethiopian orphan !
Author uniqueone Posted October 6, 2007 Author Posted October 6, 2007 Thanks so much StarGazer and Melody Matters. The last few days I've been feeling much better able to handle things. Guess I was just having a bad day that day. That coworker who wanted me to do her another favor.....she kept trying to contact me after that and I was ignoring her. When I finally talked to her I reminded her that I did that favor for her (what she was asking for) several months ago so she already had what she was now asking me for. She said she'd forgotten I'd done that for her awhile back and she'll go home and look for where she had misplaced it. (In other words, she forgot she actually already HAD what she was asking me for). She's been very chatty with me since then so it's nice to know that she's not just being friendly now in order to get something. Maintenance manager issue......an A/C guy showed up the other day thanks to me bugging the maintenance manager. Several people know what I had to go through to get this to happen. They were pleased with me for getting some action to finally happen---especially since everyone was having to use portable heaters at their desks to offset the over air-conditioning. Next time I run into the maintenance manager, I'll be acting cool towards him. Oh and he better just hope he doesn't end up needing my expertise anytime soon after the attitude he gave me. Then again, I can MAKE it happen so that he'd need my expertise..... Ok, ok, I wouldn't really be that mean....... As for the other manager--the one that asks for my expertise on his personal business all the time.....I think I'll tell him that my fee is $90 an hour and would he like to pay that upfront or receive a bill......... Ca-ching!
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