BGZ0420 Posted October 3, 2007 Posted October 3, 2007 This is my first time here so I don't really know what to expect. My wife moved out with my step-son last week after being married for exatcly 3 years and being together for 7. I have raised her son since he was 3 and I also have a son who is about the same age. Anyways, about 2 years ago, I cheated on my wife and did so for a few months. Finally I came clean to her after being caught by the other girls husband. I didn't do it because I didn't love her, we were just going through a dry patch and everytime I talked to her, I felt like she didn't want to hear it. I regret what I did everyday. I thought for sure she was going to leave me then. She stayed and we worked really hard to get through it. I felt so bad because she basically had to go on medication for what I did. That still kills me everyday. I couldn't believe I hurt my best friend like that. I thought things were better. We went on a second honeymoon in April and things were good. Then about 3 weeks ago she started acting distant. She finally told me she needed some time to her self and that she was going to move out. I was totally devestated and I still em. I felt ok tha she moved in with her sister but it still hurts that she is gone. We still see each other pretty much everyday and we still say I love you. She told me she may need want to hang out with other people. Then the other day I was at her house and she asked me to set up her new cell phone when a text message came acrossed. It just popped up and it was some guy asking if he was going to be able to call her or if they were just going to text all the time. I was crushed. I couldn't believe she gave out her number already. She said it was just a friend but I don't know what to think. I am trying not to over react and I defenitly don't want to know about this guy because then I know I will go insane. I just don't know what to do. She says she loves me and she told when she left it was only temporary but I don't believe. I don't want to leave her alone because she is my best friend and I don't want to lose her but I am lost. Any help?
whichwayisup Posted October 4, 2007 Posted October 4, 2007 So she has met someone else and is tempted, (I wouldn't call this a revenge affair) that's what it sounds like. Hate to tell ya this, but she hasn't gotten over it.....Though her doing what she is about to do is WRONG, two wrongs do not make a right. Suggest to her about going to marriage counselling together, and put a time limit on this separation...
Chrome Barracuda Posted October 4, 2007 Posted October 4, 2007 dude you screwed up. Why you have sex with another woman that was already married? Sh** why did you have an affair in the first place? You dont cure problem by getting in bed with someone else. You could have been kiled and then what? You would have been at the pearly gates saying it was just one time? What are you doing to make things better. I think you should apologize to everyone! You wife included. Good luck.
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