lexi29 Posted October 3, 2007 Posted October 3, 2007 My bf and i have dated on and off for the last 3 years. Even when we were "off" we were FWB and acted like we were dating (talked every day and saw eachohter a few times a week. 2 months ago we decided to make it official again and I've tried really hard to try to make things work. Ive been spending more time with him and his son and recently my bf got his own apartment (previously lived with parents) so I've helped him out with things around the house and cooked him dinner once in awhile-things like that. He's asked me to become more involved in his son;s life and now his son adores me (he and I were very close about 2 years ago but during our FWB's phase I didn't spend much time with my bf's son (my choice). So we've been offically dating again for two months and everythign seemed ok. Two weeks ago my bf talked about getting engaged. He brought this up twice since we've been dating. Once he actually told me he wanted to and we talked about marriage and the other time he just said out of the blue that he'd be asking me to marry him soon so I better have an answer ready. He used to call me every single day, begged me to spend more time with him etc. Well since he's moved to his own place I was always over there so no reason for him to call me or beg me to spend time with him. I think we actually spent too much time together. Last friday out of nowhere he told me he feels tied down and isnt' sure he wants to do this. After making me feel insecure (and this leading to me fighting with him all weekend) yesterday he told me he wants to end this. I asked if there is someone else and he said no and there is no evidence he is seeing someone else (he didn't date anyone in the last 3 years even when we were FWB) It sounds like he wants to go back to FWB or just friends because he said we got along better and didn't fight. I also didnt' spend all of my free time with him then. he has a lot of little complaints about me that are just stupid and petty. Its like I tried my hardest to make it work and he just didnt' appreciate any of it. Now he says he's not sure if he wants to break up or not. He also still wants to be friends and told me I am welcome to stop by any time I want (I didnt' ask, he offered) he said he really enjoys spending time with me but just can't take the arguing. He knows I want to be in a relationship or nothing at all (I couldnt' handle seeing him eventually date other people). He said he is going to take some time to think about this. He told me this just last night and it has been torture. I don't know why it effects me so badly but I cant' eat, am sick to my stomach, nervous, jittery, and I want to see him so BAD. I keep looking at my phone just wishing for a call or text from him. wanting any form of contact with him. We were supposed to go on a little camping trip this weekend (a suprise I planned for his son) and I almost still want to ask them to go. I'm not going to pressure him to make a decision but I just hate not knowing. I am going to miss them both so badly if he does break up with me. I want to see him, to talk to him, to have some kind of contact so much. but I know I should give him his space so he can make up his mind. I just dont' understand why everythign was fine and all at once he's changed his mind. How do you get thru this?
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