BklynGuy Posted October 3, 2007 Posted October 3, 2007 Met this older woman in class a few semesters ago. We had 2 classes together, so I asked for her # in case I missed a day, 2 birds with one stone. She had the hots for me & began chasing. She has 2 kids & lives with a man. I wanted nothing to do with her romantically & expressed this. Over time, we got closer & confided in eachother & talked about our problems. I guess it's not good to tell someone with a crush on you about your problems with the opposite sex. She is obese, one day I made a silly joke about obese ppl. She responded the next day by throwing a VERY personal insult in my face. I immediately distanced myself from her. Although I made the joke, I didn't direct it at her. Her verbal attack was VERY PERSONAL against me. I know I was silly for my comment, but feel like I should no longer tell this person my personal business. I've begun ignoring her @ school & personally.
rocketpixie Posted October 3, 2007 Posted October 3, 2007 It sounds like whatever you said pushed a sensitive button on her and she responded in kind. It's up to you if you feel this is a deal breaker, but you may be able to have a frank conversation and clear it up. Just tell her that you don't appreciate her using your personal information as ammunition against you when she feels slighted. Of course if you don't think this friendship is worth pursuing, then your current plan is a good one. You shouldn't have to feel uneasy around your friends.
Magnatolia Posted October 19, 2007 Posted October 19, 2007 Are you kidding? Surely you're not thick enough to make an insulting/offensive comment about obese people to someone who's actually obese!! She took your comment personally. Doesn't matter which way you flip the coin your comment was still against her. you lumped all obese people together and that included her. Just apologise for your comment, tell her you didn't appreciate what she said/wrote and get over it. Don't lose the friendship because you both insulted each other.
Author BklynGuy Posted October 21, 2007 Author Posted October 21, 2007 I know. We talked about things and are back friends again, although we now both watch our mouths with eachother.
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