rhiannonreid Posted October 3, 2007 Posted October 3, 2007 Well... what happened was... I'll use names because its easier... I worked at KFC. And Tom was my manager... Anyway, we ended up going out. Everything was great, after about a month I quit working at KFC because I didn't want him to get fired. But his boss ended up harassing him into asking me to work at a different store... I ended up doing so because it was Tom who asked me. Anyway. Everything was going great in the relationship, but then we started to hit a few snags, but it was all due to stress from work. I was in the car with Tom one day, Andrew and Paul were in the back. And Paul made a comment about me. Tom ended up saying 'you can have her, shes all yours' and told him to hook up with me. I honestly thought he was joking... and to be honest I'm still not quite sure. But anyway, we all got drunk that night, and Paul asked me to have sex with him, that it was obvious that Tom didnt care about me. I flat out refused him. So Paul went and told Andrew (Tom's brother) that I made out with him. And then they both told Tom. I however didnt know this at the time. Things were still a little rocky. Tom wouldnt talk to me and I started to stress out big time. To the point where I was extremely sick. So we ended up breaking up on what I thought was a mutual agreement. That we needed to be friends again. Then another of our friends Luke asked me how the single life was. I told him that I didn't really want to talk about it because people usually ask what happened... and he replied that he didnt need to ask because he knew. So I asked him to tell me what he thought happened. And thats when I found out that Tom thought I cheated on him with Paul. He didn't even consult me about it. I find it highly unfair. I've been trying to talk to him. But he just won't believe me. He believes his brother over all else and his brother didnt like me that much because of a run in I had with him previously. I don't know what to do. I still love him. But he just ignores the hell out of me. He's even started spreading rumours about me. Calling me a stalker and what not. He thinks that everything I've ever said is a lie. I really don't know what to do!!!!!!! How do I gain his trust back?
joekurtz Posted October 3, 2007 Posted October 3, 2007 I hate to say it kiddo, but Tom really doesn't sound like he's worth your trouble. However, no one knows better than me how impossible it is to just stop loving & wanting someone no matter how badly they may be treating you. When logic says "forget 'em", but your heart says that you're still in love, then logic usually doesn't stand a chance. Huh? But, you've got to face reality. If Tom were really worth the sortof emotionalinvestment that you're putting in him, he wouldn't have made that rude comment about you being available for his buddy's advances. Whether he was kidding or not. And if he cared about you like you deserve to be cared about, he'd certainly be willing to take the time to talk to you about what did & DIDN'T happen between you & this Paul charecter. Tom can't be a very nice guy if he's just going to automatically believe what his brother Andrew told him about you & Paul supposedly "making out" without hearing your side of the story. I know it hurts, but to me, it sounds like Tom was just looking for an out & used Paul & Andrew's lies as an excuse to basically blow you off. So, take some time to mend your feelings, find a different job so you won't keep running into these yo yos & move on. You'll find someone much better in the future I'm sure. Take care & peace.
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