spookie Posted October 3, 2007 Posted October 3, 2007 I think there's always a point in relationships when you decide to allow yourself to start feeling things for the other person. Prior to that you may LIKE someone, you may be romantically INTERESTED, but you don't really care yet. It won't hurt you if it doesn't work out, because there's not yet hope invested. Hope comes with feelings. I'm wondering how long you guys wait to start falling. Can you control your emotions with your mind, waiting for the other person to first earn your trust? Or do you fall when you can, because it feels so good? I like the guy I've been dating so much, and I'm tempted to just let go and let myself feel giddy and high, but that would give him the power to wound me, and I don't want to take unnecessary risks of getting hurt.
Brokendreams875 Posted October 3, 2007 Posted October 3, 2007 You have already made your decision obviously. By admitting you like him so much he already has to power to hurt you. Obviously if you start to like him more you risk being hurt more but I dont believe it is something you really can control. I know in my situation i tried so hard to keep my guard up but when id tell myself I didnt care if we broke up I knew I was lieing to myself. unfortunatly love, even just liking someone alot is a big risk, and its one you either have to take on occasion or just be alone. obviously what you need to do is talk to him, find out how he feels, where he sees this going before you completely let your guard down
shadowplay Posted October 3, 2007 Posted October 3, 2007 obviously what you need to do is talk to him, find out how he feels, where he sees this going before you completely let your guard down I disagree. She's just started seeing this guy. It's too soon for her to have "the talk." If she does right now he'll feel pressured. She should wait for his feelings to develop more before she raises it.
Brokendreams875 Posted October 3, 2007 Posted October 3, 2007 I don't necessarily mean NOW and she didnt say how long shes been dating him, what I meant is before you let your guard down completely you should make sure you know what is on the mind of your partner. Whether it be now or 3 months from now, to let your guard down and completely falling into the giddiness of a relationship you should know how both people feel to save some potential pain.
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