Lizzie60 Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 This young guy came back... Since he's been busted he came to see me twice for a short visit... He was nervous, we chatted... and kissed, nothing more. Just before dinner today, he called to check if I was home. He wanted to stop for a short visit. He stopped, we chatted, we kissed...then he said he didn't want to leave. The last time he stopped by, when he left he said something like : I feel just like when I'm falling in love. Today, he questionned me a lot... if I would date him, live with him... blablabla... I said 'yes'... he thought I was kidding... Then I said, if you want to date... I'm OK with it... in a joking way.... He still wasn't sure if I was serious or not. I am just waiting to see what he'll do, I don't trust him too much...LOL He tells me non stop how beautiful I am... so I asked him if he was saying that to all the women..he said 'yes' but only the ones he likes very much. LOL When he left he seemed depressed a little bit.. he said he was comfy with me... and he didn't want to leave. I think I want to try it... but of course, he'll have to leave her... cause he'll get caught and she can be, apparently, very nasty. I am curious about this guy. I am not 'in love' with him.. just curious to see where it can lead. He keeps saying he wished I was his age... blablabla.... but I'm not LOL. I asked him if he would be embarassed to go out with me because of the age gap... he said 'not at all' when I asked him about his friends, he replied they would be 'jealous'... He doesn't seem to care what people think about this type of relationship. I think this guy is falling for me... this is soooo weird. I feel sooo strange tonite... it was soooo nice. I can't wait to see what will happen next.
Mino Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 I think Lizzie is falling in love, I think Lizzie is Falling, Lalalalalalal, I think Lizzie is faling in L O V E!! la la la la la:love: Best wishes!!
Author Lizzie60 Posted October 3, 2007 Author Posted October 3, 2007 I think Lizzie is falling in love, I think Lizzie is Falling, Lalalalalalal, I think Lizzie is faling in L O V E!! la la la la la:love: Best wishes!! Don't be silly...LOL I have to agree that I like him very much... He asked me if I liked him and why and I said I like him cause he's cute, is a workholic, not possessive, great lover... but most of all I like him because he's intelligent. He's only 25 but he's like an old soul... Seriously... I am not 'in love' but I like him and I am very curious as to where he is willing to go with all this... very curious. I just wonder if this is all BS...LOL
whichwayisup Posted October 3, 2007 Posted October 3, 2007 Lizzie, no offense my dear, but you know this guy is inlove with you and you have no intention of being faithful just to him, let alone have a real relationship with him...It truely is just unfair of you to allow this to continue. It isn't BS, you KNOW how he feels for you!!! He is willing to throw away his relationship with his girlfriend for you. Please, just think outside the box on this one...You're going to break his heart. He's too attached to you (go back and re-read your older posts about him, I think you'll see why pursusing this is a big mistake...). Anyway, obviously the choice is yours, but just take some time to think about this...He is young, has deep feelings for you and wants alot more than you're willing to offer him. You know he won't be able to handle sharing you with other men and unless you're willing to say goodbye to all the others, what is the point of having this young guy around?
Touche Posted October 3, 2007 Posted October 3, 2007 What's the point? The point is once again the ego boost. She wants to see if a man will leave his SO for her. Of course he won't though. He's not so in love with her so much as the challenge of her, IMO. He's a player. A loser who is cheating on this girlfriend...a girlfriend I'd bet anything he won't leave for the OP. Just my take on it.
Author Lizzie60 Posted October 3, 2007 Author Posted October 3, 2007 thanks... I know... we haven't discussed the 'seriousness' of this whole thing yet.. but I suspect that he will do a loootttt of thinking after what we talked about today. I told him I was not possessive... and he already knows that I don't believe in monogamy... He knows about the massage stuff... we talked about that today... but at this stage, I am not sure how serious he is about leaving her... They've been together 6 years... he has cheated on her 5 years on those... he's been with a 49 yr old before... she caught him ... but this OW didn't know he had a gf... same thing with me.. I didn't know till now, and she never wanted to see him again. I don't think he's the kind that CAN be faithful... I doubt it... but I don't mind it. I just don't know if he's pulling some BS or how serious he is... I'll know more next time... I guess.
Author Lizzie60 Posted October 3, 2007 Author Posted October 3, 2007 What's the point? The point is once again the ego boost. She wants to see if a man will leave his SO for her. Of course he won't though. He's not so in love with her so much as the challenge of her, IMO. He's a player. A loser who is cheating on this girlfriend...a girlfriend I'd bet anything he won't leave for the OP. Just my take on it. He is a player... she caught him every time, in 6 different affairs in 5 years... Do I expect him to be faithful? ...not at all.. Am I in love? ...nope... Do I care if he's unfaithful?...nope. Will he leave her? I have no idea at this point. They just bought a house last December. I don't know what's going to happen.
Touche Posted October 3, 2007 Posted October 3, 2007 He is a player... she caught him every time, in 6 different affairs in 5 years... Do I expect him to be faithful? ...not at all.. Am I in love? ...nope... Do I care if he's unfaithful?...nope. Will he leave her? I have no idea at this point. They just bought a house last December. I don't know what's going to happen. Yes, it sounds like you're being very realistic. The only point I guess I was trying to make is this. For him you're a challenge. And for you a kind of challenge as well. You want to see if he'll leave the g/f for you. And he wants to see if he can "get" you. It's a game and you're both playing it.
Citizen Erased Posted October 3, 2007 Posted October 3, 2007 If anything he should not be with his girlfriend. 5 years out of 6 he's been cheating? If it were anyone else we would be saying that means he will on you etc etc. But you have expressed you don't believe in monagamy and if this is actually genuine and not a front, then you are the only sort of woman he should be in a relationship with (if that's what you wanted of course ). I'm not saying he is right, I think he's a jerk to be frank, but some people are obviously incapable of being monagamous and they should only be in a relationship with someone who accepts that. But you are wasting your time if he won't leave his girlfriend, which he has shown that despite numerous affairs he won't.
lost4ever Posted October 3, 2007 Posted October 3, 2007 I'm going with you being in love also....sure it might not be typical love, but it's still love...you want to be around him, you want to share---you love him..poor guy now he met his match...gotta love karma
NoIDidn't Posted October 3, 2007 Posted October 3, 2007 I don't think this kid is in love at all. He knows he's dealing with Sally Easy Lay with No Strings. His statement about his friends says it all. They are going to be "jealous"? Who says that if they are in love? My friends would be "happy" for me if I was in love, not "jealous". Sounds like a typical, narcissistic (sp?) guy who cheats because it suits him. Only now, he's found the perfect cheating partner.
mopar crazy Posted October 3, 2007 Posted October 3, 2007 I think this guy is in love w/ Lizzie sexually. He is mixing up love and lust, IMO. Lizzie, I know you have said in the past you do not want a FT man in your life. You are only in R for the sex. If this stands true w/ this guy you REALLY need to tell him, if you haven't already. Don't play mind games w/ him. I haven't been keeping up w/ all your threads and post about this guy so I'm out of the loop what is going on.
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