Lucky555 Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 So its so easy to get dressed up on a friday or saturday night then hit it off with some attractive young man. I could be just out in the area, club, or lounge. Well well well! Its so awful on campus!!! I am a college student but i can't seem to attract the guys! Gosh i dont know what to do..i want a guy from my school....well i have not found one but I want an attractive guy from my school to at least talk to me. How do i do this? I don't belong to clubs and my career is 99.9% WOMEN! oh its sooo bad. There is this one boy i have know for awhile but hes soo busy with his life and i really just want him as a friend we had classes together....So i need a plan. I am part of an organization at school but its also ALL WOMEN! So i dont even know where these boys are anyways, really its that bad. Library: NONE Cafe: TONS and they are all eating......with their other male friends so i found them right? lol Everywhere else i have not found them nor have i got them to talk to me when i find them.Seeing a cute eligible guy at my school is rare i suppose? So here is what i am going to do i am going to test my theory...here it is if i dress like i do on fri and sat nights and then prop myself where the boys are at......one of them will at least say hi or something!!!!! Its going to take more time to devise my outfits and stuff but i am going to try this. At school is jeans, sneakers, and like a t-shirt. Nothing to outstanding its school....but i have a mission. lol Now i say this because its about time for me to stop dwelling with losers......the last guy i met was a foot ball player soo attractive and nice and then i found his online page and what a PLAYER he is good thing i trusted my instincts. Are there any other suggestions out there?
Chesleyfan Posted October 3, 2007 Posted October 3, 2007 I find it hard to believe guys are that scarce at any college. Library: I wouldn't suggest it... people are there to be quiet and study, and that (IMHO) is a difficult environment to try and get to know someone. Cafe: So what if they are eating? Go up to one and say "Hey, I was thinking of order that, any good? BLAH BLAH..." If he's interested at all you might have just got yourself into an instant dinner date. Bars: Oh boy, trust me, plenty o' guys here. They're probably drunk and stupid and just want to get laid, though. Not that I'm knocking it if that's your kind of night, but I know I try to stay away from girls that spend their entire weekends at bars, and I would say the same for guys. How about joining some other clubs? Most of 'em should be co-ed, and that way you'll know right away that you have at least one thing in common... either that, or see if your college hosts weekly group outings (mine typically does outdoorsy stuff, biking, hiking, rafting, skiing, etc.), once again you get to do something you like and meet some new people. Take a one credit recreation class, too... same basic idea, but you get credit for it to boot!
Timberlane Posted October 3, 2007 Posted October 3, 2007 Just go up and talk to the guys at lunch. Plop your books and food down and speak up. Say, "Hey, my name is ______. Mind if I join you?" Keep doing it until someone starts smiling at you when you come into the room making a chair available. You can always claim to just be friendly that way. But the best way to meet guys is at parties. Find out where the good ones are.
spookie Posted October 3, 2007 Posted October 3, 2007 You're gonna dress like you're going out to go to class and pick up boys there? I'm sorry, but I think that's dumb. You might get some guy to talk to you, but if that's what it takes he's a very obtuse and superficial person and likely after one thing. Here's what you should do. Expand your social circle at your school - guys and girls. Dont necessarily look for a boyfriend, but try to be more social. Your new friends will ahve friends, and they will have friends. The number of people you will come in contact with this way will grow exponentially with each new friend you make. And amongst those, there will be guys you might be interested in. To expand your social circle, first just try tlaking to people you think look friendly. Then, join a sports team or an interest group of some sort - if you're at a university, there are loads of those around. Talk to people there. Find a girlfriend to go to parties with you and tlak to people there. Get their numbers. Call them to hang out.
Author Lucky555 Posted October 3, 2007 Author Posted October 3, 2007 The advise you all gave me is great. So thanks for that post saying "the guys would be superficial if they just liked me for what i wear." I didn't think this through enough i suppose, i should find a guy thats interested in me no matter what i wear. So its going to be tough, a lot of guys i see are younger than me and i am going for guys in the range of 23-29, i have dated 30 before at my age 22. However, i think i need to stay in the 20's range. I just wish i new when i could find them haha. I was warned from a friend about the "sports" player guys and how they are not the type of guys to look for. So i was thinking i should start working out at the gym thats where i could find some guys hopefully around my age. I love to run s i usually just run along side the road but i need to get out there. I have a light hearted approach to this so far, its not so much that i am looking avidly for a boyfriend...I wouldn't mind just being friends with the guy first. I am going to try to make some new friends that are girls so maybe get invited to their party or something and meet new people. The parties that generally go on are ok...just i am not a party person i rather go to a coffee shop and have a good conversation but i never meet guys that want to do that. So i suppose guys have many layers to them that they don't readily reveal themselves. i wish i had a decoder that said "good or bad" lol Another thing is i could be sabotaging myself in what i do...like if i go by my routine and i don't see guys then that means i need to change it up a bit. Thanks everyone
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