pjean Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 I hate the lonely nights. Maybe I should find a man who likes to keep me warm and see if my MM likes to share? Wouldnt that give him a taste of his own actions? Why should I have to be alone if another man is wants to keep me company? I made the comment to him the reason I am so one-tracked minded about sex is because I dont have it as often as he does! I wonder how MM would change if the OW got an OM of their own???n Anyone ever try this?
OWoman Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 Anyone ever try this? Yes. I used to keep several, simultaneously. They all knew there were others - that was upfront, part of the agreement. The MMs were cool about that, but the SGs used to grumble and want to be the only one.
LucreziaBorgia Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 Some MM won't really care. Others will care a great deal. It depends on the man, really. How will they change? Some MM will simply dump you and find an OW who will comply more to his needs for her. Other MM will get jealous, and pull emotional mind games in order to get his OW back in line. Yet others will simply just accept that there is nothing really they can do about it, and do nothing. Some will dump the OW, and realize that they don't want to give up their wife for an OW who cheats (hypocritical to the extreme, but it happens). What will your MM do? How will he change? Its hard to say. He may do what you expect and want him to do, he may not. Is that a gamble you want to take?
serial muse Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 The MMs were cool about that, but the SGs used to grumble and want to be the only one. This is exactly it. Pjean, please don't pay your hurt forward that way. The OM don't deserve that. Why involve more unwitting people in that kind of pain? Another way to go would be to dump the MM and just date the SG without him interfering. Much less drama that way (and less using of other people).
Lizzie60 Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 I have many MMs...and they know they're not the only ones... I am single...they're married...so why should I wait for them whenever I feel like having sex. The one that is head over heels in love with me... knows that I see another guy (he thinks there is only one... ) and when I go on vacation I tell him about my flings... If they can't handle that... tough!
Unforgetable77 Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 loving the avatar lizzie........just soooo cute!! sorry for the thread-jack
Nyx Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 If you take another man in order to make your MM jealous, yes you'll probably achieve that and it'll put some extra strain on the relationship. If you take another man because you think there's the slightest chance your MM will come running to rescue you from this interloper, it won't happen. However, if you want company, if you want the chance to relax in a man's arms who isn't going to give you grief, or even if you just want sex then do it. If your MM doesn't like it he knows what he can do. It's so hypocritical when an MM thinks he has a valid excuse for having two or more women, and yet is horrified if his OW has even the slightest interest in another man. You will need to be absolutely certain the other person knows about and understands your relationship with the MM, but most (not all) men don't mind as long as you can offer them what they want. Sometimes having another man to talk to can be very useful as you'll will get to see the relationship from a man's POV. Having your own 'bit on the side' even if it's someone who will do nothing more than hold you whilst you cry yourself to sleep now and again, can keep you sane in an insane situation.
ICallsEmAsISeesEm Posted October 3, 2007 Posted October 3, 2007 He really has no say in the matter, does he? He's committed to someone else and goes home to her every night. He's HARDLY in a position to say squat about ANYTHING. If YOU allow him to have a say in it, however, then that's your fault. I say go for it. MM is the last one you should consider.
Jinnah Posted October 4, 2007 Posted October 4, 2007 I have many MMs...and they know they're not the only ones... I am single...they're married...so why should I wait for them whenever I feel like having sex. The one that is head over heels in love with me... knows that I see another guy (he thinks there is only one... ) and when I go on vacation I tell him about my flings... If they can't handle that... tough! What a classy lady...:sick::sick:
Chrome Barracuda Posted October 4, 2007 Posted October 4, 2007 This is some sick ****! I'm gonna get another man to make my mm jealous??? WTF? Did you ever just want a normal relationship with a single man without all the complications of marriage? What the F is the point if he's married? Is it a challenge or is it because you think your in competition with his wife? I mean wTF is wrong with some of you who would even try to actively seek out married men to be with? I just dont get it? :confused:
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