jade6147 Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 i finally got up the nerve to ask my ex one more time if he wanted to work things out he said no, it is not in the cards for us so i am giving up and doing the no contact thing. what i don't get thought is that he wants to still see my kids sometimes. he never wanted to spend time with them when we were together and one of the reasons he broke up with me was he didn't want to be a father to my kids, what gives? can anybody tell me what he is doing with this?
carrotgirl Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 Hi jade, I don't know if this is what your ex is feeling but my father did the same thing when he left my mum. For him it was purely a control move. He had no interest in us kids other than as tools for manipulating my mum or my grandparents. He only wanted to exert some control over his situation. Partly he wanted to leave some sort of access to "his" family while at the same time he was somewhat mentally terrorizing my mum by making her think there was still a chance. This was clear to us kids though if you asked either of my parents, they wouldn't have thought so. The simplest thing to do is to say sure he can see the kids and know in your heart of hearts, that might just be all your ex wants to hear. Carrot
Spinderella Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 If they are not his natural kids, and he never had any interest in them, and he clearly is not interested in you, then that sounds a little odd.
Chrome Barracuda Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 Tell him to F off. Especially if he isnt the bip father. That man is messed up. He lost you he losses the children too. I think your ex should have thought of that before he left you. You go hit the gym and dont worry about him anymore, there's alot of good men out here. trust me,
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