shadowplay Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 My boyfriend visited this weekend, and we had a great time. We seemed to reach a new level of closeness, but one strange thing happened. Yesterday morning I woke up, turned over and gave him a hug. Then he said something quickly and quietly that sounded like "I love you," but I wasn't entirely sure because he sort of mumbled it. I guess the reason I question what I heard is because it seemed too sudden and out of the blue, like he just blurted it out without thinking. Since I wasn't sure what he said, I didn't say anything in response, just kissed him. Now I'm not sure what to do. If he did say it, then he'll think I heard him but didn't respond...in which case he may not say it again. Any advice?
Lauriebell82 Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 My bf mumbles "i love you" in the morning when we wake up..mostly because he's half asleep. Sometimes I can't make out what he is saying so i'll ask him "what did you say babe?" Then he says "i love you" and I tell him I love him too. That would be my advice if you hear him mumble something like that again. Now, I am guessing you havn't told each other "i love you" yet. Have long have you been together? Does he say things like "I love being close to you" or "I love being with you." Those are sort of clues that your bf is about to say the "L-word." (not in all cases so). More importantly, do you love him? Would you have said it back if he would have said it more clearly? I highly doubt this is the last time he will tell you he loves you. If you love him you could tell him, but if you are like me I usually wait for my bf to say it first. I'm sure he'll try to tell you again, but you could tell him how much he means to you and that you love spending time with him if you don't want to say it first. That might clue him in, and give him the green light to tell you again.
Author shadowplay Posted October 1, 2007 Author Posted October 1, 2007 We've been together three months. Neither of us has said the "L-word" yet. I love him, but I'm scared to be the first. I do get the sense he loves me from the way he acts. This weekend when we were kissing he suddenly blurted out "I'm so crazy about you." He's very physically affectionate and tender with me. That same morning he said he didn't want to get up from bed, and he had a good excuse because he's in bed with "a beautiful girl..or beautiful woman I should say, one who's making my life that much better." I really want to tell him, but I'm so scared.
Krytie TV Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 I don't understand why when someone mumbles something you don't understand that you don't say, "what?" Why would you not ask him to repeat it if you didn't know what it was? What if he said something completely different and this whole issue is over something he actually didn't say?
Author shadowplay Posted October 1, 2007 Author Posted October 1, 2007 I don't understand why when someone mumbles something you don't understand that you don't say, "what?" Why would you not ask him to repeat it if you didn't know what it was? What if he said something completely different and this whole issue is over something he actually didn't say? I wish I had, but it happened so fast that it took me by surprise and I didn't know what to say. I guess I got the sense that if he did say it, it was sort of accidentally blurted out because he was half asleep and I didn't want to embarrass him.
Lauriebell82 Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 I wish I had, but it happened so fast that it took me by surprise and I didn't know what to say. I guess I got the sense that if he did say it, it was sort of accidentally blurted out because he was half asleep and I didn't want to embarrass him. Even if he accidently blurted it out, he still told you he loved you! Doesn't make it any different if he carefully planned out the exact moment he wanted to tell you. Maybe it would have embarrassed him a little, but then you both would have acknowledged that you love each other. That's nothing to b embarrased about! You say you are scared, yeah I understand. But if you really do love the guy and think that he loves you than go for it! You could wait for him to say it again, and chances are he will, but if you want to say it first then go for it! Don't be scared!
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