starlite Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 No one is really responding to me and it is frustrating because I really need some insight! My bf and I were together 2.5 years, living together 1.5. We had been fighting a lot about his going out late and my trust issues. (HE has told me some lies in the past). He moved out. We were done. Now he is so miserable and so am I! Do you think that if him and I reach compromises on "us" that we should get back together but not have him move back in...or he should just come back. Basically I am wondering if not living together is too much of a step back. I dont think living together was really our problem.
niceguy27 Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 If you think you two can talk things through in a civil way by all means at least try it. Be completely open with each other and dont dwell on what happened in the past. If you confronted those issues with your time apart then know what they are before you go back into this and keep working on it. And taking a step back gives you both a little breathing room so I would take that over just stepping out completely and not giving it a shot.
DVNPRT6 Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 You gotta both want it....and you don't need OUR insights on this...Only you can figure out whats really going on? As for arguments, what were they about? Petty BS, big stuff? you might have to compromise about 'going out' and 'stuff' but you actually have to be OK and happy with your decision...Best of luck miss.
DH27 Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 If you are both miserable without each other, then the answer is clear. You two need to work these troubles out. Like what was said earlier, what happened in the past is gone and done. If you have already talked about those past problems then you can't dwell on them. I would do my best to work this situation out. Talk about your problems and be completely open about everything. Good luck, I hope you two work everything out.
sneakinaround1 Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 Love is the most heartbreaking and uplifting emotion that any person can hope to have. You 2 need to have a frank and honest discussion of exactly what each one expects of the other in a committed relationship. Once those things are in the open, you need to look within yourself and decide if those expectations of your mate are tolerable. Marriage is always a compromise, but you must never feel like you are the loser. Hope I am making sense as I too am having problems.
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