passion4fashion Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 hi I'm new here and I was hoping I could get some advice on this situation. I've been seeing this guy since May, off & on because he & I have been busy with our jobs. We waited to have sex until about our 5th encounter & so we've only had sex 3 times, but he hasn't made me his gf yet. Sometimes he'll text me late at night, such as lastnight & I knew what that meant "latenight hookup" & I was kinda disappointed because I don't want to be that type of girl to him. So I texted him back "well I wish you would've let me know you were out earlier because we would've at fun at the bar, & I don't want to JUST have sex w/you. I'm a fun girl & you know it" he wrote back "tease" (jokingly) & said "but you have a fine a**" I said "tease? nah..well you could have my a** & me, the best package" he said "I agree. sounds nice" I said "I'm glad we're on the same page" Then he said"where are you?" I said I was on my way home" he said something to the context of pleasing himself, & I said "ok do that then" meaning I wasn't coming over. he wrote back "yes mam" And I left it at that because I don't want to keep on this game if it's just a game to him. The thing is that he treats me like his gf when I'm around him, so that is why I'm confused if he thinks I'm a "good time" or someone to take seriously? we are taking our time it seems like but the texts are sometimes late at night, so I'm confused, and I want to confront him on this, but I want to do it through email so if I see him in person, I don't feel pressured or interested in sex at the time. so am I confusing him or what is the deal??? Please help!! Thanks people!!
Trialbyfire Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 If you have concerns about being a late night hookup and want more, do clarify it with him. Don't be timid about wanting exclusivity and a real relationship. If it is or isn't what he wants, he will let you know which means that you're better able to make an educated decision instead of trying to guess where he stands.
Author passion4fashion Posted October 1, 2007 Author Posted October 1, 2007 If you have concerns about being a late night hookup and want more, do clarify it with him. Don't be timid about wanting exclusivity and a real relationship. If it is or isn't what he wants, he will let you know which means that you're better able to make an educated decision instead of trying to guess where he stands. should I explain it to him via email? because if I meet up with him, he'll probably think I'm going there for sex, or he might expect it and I don't want to create that mess when trying to tell him my feelings you know? what should I tell him if I do email him, especially since I've been kinda going along with this so called game?
Trialbyfire Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 should I explain it to him via email? because if I meet up with him, he'll probably think I'm going there for sex, or he might expect it and I don't want to create that mess when trying to tell him my feelings you know? what should I tell him if I do email him, especially since I've been kinda going along with this so called game? I wouldn't do it via email, if you're not LDR. Go in person so you can read his body language. If he crosses his arms and/or legs, looks like he's feeling trapped, squirms, you know the routine...regardless of what he says, it can be quite telling. Actions over words.
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