Ocean-Blue Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 I freakin' hate being in an LDR!!!!! My bf is thousands of miles away and the closet I can get to him is via phone or webcam. I was curious, for those of you in LDRs, how do you keep the passion alive? I find myself fighting with my bf sometimes b/c I miss him so much (I'm uber picky and get all clingy and then we end up in an argument). We worked through some issues recently and things seem to be on the right track now. But seriously, I don't know how much longer I can last doing this. I hate that I can't see him. What's worse is that he seems to have such a good handle on this. He's Mr. Calm and Cool while I'm Madam Clingy. But I digress... How do you guys keep the flame alive?
Author Ocean-Blue Posted October 2, 2007 Author Posted October 2, 2007 Awww, c'mon guys. Someone help me out here. How do you guys do it? I don't see my bf for another 2.5 months. It is slowly driving me insane. I guess the trip is to keep yourself busy huh?
Zona76 Posted October 3, 2007 Posted October 3, 2007 The question you have to ask yourself is, "Would I rather be doing something else?" We stay in this because it's in *O U R* best interest. We're selfish. Okay you need things to do. Have you done the "Virtual Date" It's Imagination...you know, Pretend, Make Believe. Pick a place. Anywhere in the world and choose a web site. Go out to dinner. Chose a wine. Buy the most expensive fashion (using photo-shop, cut your head and place it on that of a famous model) Play a song and dance together. Buy him flowers. Describe the scent. Take a tour of a famous museum. Go up to the top of the Eiffel Tower. LDR dating is endless. But it requires imagination. This will come in handy when your relationship becomes REAL. You will have learned how to keep your partner entertained
Author Ocean-Blue Posted October 3, 2007 Author Posted October 3, 2007 Zona: Thanks for taking the time to reply! Your suggestion is an interesting one. I take it that this is a website (virtual date)? I'll be sure to look into it.
costahobo Posted October 4, 2007 Posted October 4, 2007 heh, you sound like my girlfriend. we're currently in an LDR, and we have to make it work somedays. for the most part, it's all good, but then those occasional 'bad days' creep up, when we both miss each other so much, and we end up fighting. as for the passion, it is hard. msn, webcams, skype, they help alot. we send each other things in the mail. but if you know that both him and the relationship are worth it, the next 2.5 months will fly back. don't think of it as 2.5 months. think of it has 9-10 more sundays. sundays are typically me and my gf's 'bad day', so thats how we think of it. we won't see each till dec 14th, so each sunday, we count down. 'yay, only 8 more sundays to go!' as for him handling it well ... i'm sure he's not. my gf says the same thing about me. that i seem perfectly content with her being gone, when it's the exact opposite, but i have to stay strong for her. i do break down and cry sometimes, cuz it does hurt with her being gone, but i have to stay strong... to keep my own sanity, and to protect her. i would bet that he's doing the same thing - he's just looking after you.
Author Ocean-Blue Posted October 8, 2007 Author Posted October 8, 2007 heh, you sound like my girlfriend. we're currently in an LDR, and we have to make it work somedays. for the most part, it's all good, but then those occasional 'bad days' creep up, when we both miss each other so much, and we end up fighting. as for the passion, it is hard. msn, webcams, skype, they help alot. we send each other things in the mail. but if you know that both him and the relationship are worth it, the next 2.5 months will fly back. don't think of it as 2.5 months. think of it has 9-10 more sundays. sundays are typically me and my gf's 'bad day', so thats how we think of it. we won't see each till dec 14th, so each sunday, we count down. 'yay, only 8 more sundays to go!' as for him handling it well ... i'm sure he's not. my gf says the same thing about me. that i seem perfectly content with her being gone, when it's the exact opposite, but i have to stay strong for her. i do break down and cry sometimes, cuz it does hurt with her being gone, but i have to stay strong... to keep my own sanity, and to protect her. i would bet that he's doing the same thing - he's just looking after you. He says he misses me. And I believe him. But sometimes the distance is unbearable. He's a strong man...not very keen on expressing his emotions. He keeps himself busy with work, sports, etc. Me? I sit around moping...waiting for him. Methinks I should start living my life here. Thanks for your reply!
Zona76 Posted October 9, 2007 Posted October 9, 2007 Not a web site that I know of. Though there may be one. Having a virtual date is using your imagination. You write your own story and dream your own settings. I had always used microphone not telephone. I'd play a song or he would and we'd each be able to hear the music. And we'd talk about the season and the scents in the air. How the violin quartet he brought in for our own private dining. He'd feed me grapes and lick the sweet juice from my lips and chin. When we'd leave all the eyes were on this famous couple as they left knowing the beautiful love story they held. When you can learn to use your imagination your love will always be exciting. You will always know how to keep the romance alive years after your REAL life comes together. It becomes a habit. A good habit.
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