NorCalDave Posted October 4, 2007 Posted October 4, 2007 Looks like it, alot of ppl going through similar similar situations. Maybe the fresh start that you want is going to help you along the way to get your feet back on track again and not remind you of her like the item you found at the gym. best of luck bro! when there is a will, there is a way! You're right. You have to WANT to not be in pain all the time in order to get out of the pain. I want to get out. A fresh start in a new city is just what the doctor ordered. That way I won't have to run into her fricking protein-shake bottle in the gym... Good luck to you as well:)
LoveDeluxe78 Posted October 5, 2007 Posted October 5, 2007 Alright, I'm so not missing my ex today! I just HATE him! I think he's a disgusting human being and just makes me very very angry! I am so glad that things didn't work out between this selfish person and myself! I think he took out his ex gfs cheating on him on me, and he was guarded the whole time! How am I going to get punished for something his exes did to him? He's going around telling everyone he's so over me! What a jerk! I really need to get him out of my mind because he doesn't even deserve another thought! I don't think it's him I really miss or want to be with, it's just that I can't let go of him hurting me! Have you guys ever thought that perhaps it's your anger that's not allowing you to move on and not these selfish people? (Alright, I think I just went through the anger phase!!!) lol
Author loveinlife Posted October 5, 2007 Author Posted October 5, 2007 Alright, I'm so not missing my ex today! I just HATE him! I think he's a disgusting human being and just makes me very very angry! I am so glad that things didn't work out between this selfish person and myself! I think he took out his ex gfs cheating on him on me, and he was guarded the whole time! How am I going to get punished for something his exes did to him? He's going around telling everyone he's so over me! What a jerk! I really need to get him out of my mind because he doesn't even deserve another thought! I don't think it's him I really miss or want to be with, it's just that I can't let go of him hurting me! Have you guys ever thought that perhaps it's your anger that's not allowing you to move on and not these selfish people? (Alright, I think I just went through the anger phase!!!) lol I bet your glad you're feeling better. I also came to some realization today that maybe my ex isn't for me either. I can't be dependent on her and live a life that i won't be happy if i always had to please her. Something i should have known awhile back and i should have created a boundary to protect myself and my own self respect. I think i could of made the relationship work out better if i knew how to not let someone who i love to hurt me. Basically i was blinded by love and thought she loved me the same to give unconditionally as i have. Can't believe this took me so long to find out. I have thought about the angry phase or the phase where why do we love the ppl who hurt us. One thing i learned from someone is "love is not suppose to hurt." Keep it up Love, im sure we'll be alright one day... take care. =)
NorCalDave Posted October 5, 2007 Posted October 5, 2007 I bet your glad you're feeling better. I also came to some realization today that maybe my ex isn't for me either. I can't be dependent on her and live a life that i won't be happy if i always had to please her. Something i should have known awhile back and i should have created a boundary to protect myself and my own self respect. I think i could of made the relationship work out better if i knew how to not let someone who i love to hurt me. Basically i was blinded by love and thought she loved me the same to give unconditionally as i have. Can't believe this took me so long to find out. I have thought about the angry phase or the phase where why do we love the ppl who hurt us. One thing i learned from someone is "love is not suppose to hurt." Keep it up Love, im sure we'll be alright one day... take care. =) I feel the same way. I am glad that this relationship (or lack thereof) I had taught me that I NEED TO RESPECT MYSELF AND MY EMOTIONS MORE. I loved her unconditionally and eventually turned into a doormat. I put her needs over mine, all the time. It got me no where, and I won't ever do that in a relationship again. My anger with her never really lasts long. I love her too much to be "angry" with her. I think what helps is to take a Taoist approach and and just accept her for what she is, and what she isn't too. I thought she was the woman of my dreams, but in reality, she couldn't give me what I wanted (a future, a family, a committed relationship) and I couldn't give her what she wanted (security and millions of frickin dollars, and an old wrinkled face to ease her insecurities). We are two people who just weren't right for each other, no matter how good it felt. And getting angry with her is not the answer. I am sad that she went out with me when deep down she didn't see a future (that's using someone!), but at least I got to experience some very strong feelings and emotions, and I am glad I touched her life for a few years. I'd like to re-connect with her in the future, but not until I am wayyy over her and until all the emotions have been calmed. For now, I am going to live my life independently the best I can, and try to be happy by myself. You can do it!!
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