marc pigeon Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 Ok i'm gonna keep this simple. All i want is a neutral opinion, 50/50. not just negative or positive. Im 26 she's 20. June -June 7th me and my g/f broke up, it was a bad break up. We were together for 1 year and 3 months. -Had many up and downs like every normal couple. After a break up like ours she said she needed space to find herself. -Lets not forget here, that she broke up after a big fight we had june 7th and after me getting her a government job too. -So i tried talking sense into her and she seemed convinced this was all she needed was to be alone and "find herself" -I went into "no contact" righttttt away without even thinking twice. -I started playing rugby to get my anger out, and rugby is perfect for that -then after 2weeks of no contact, she hacked in my msn and facebook to see if there were other girls, and there is, but those girls are friends. -even made a fake person to come online and tease me to see how'd react on facebook does that seems like a girl that wants out ??? lol July - still has my stuff and i still have hers, no efforts are made to return the stuff - no contact atttt alllllllllll from or her August - i wrote her to say i want my stuff back - she was out of town to get her wisdom teeth out - she sent my stuff when she got back - but anytime we spoke after the break up she always had that hateful tone in her emails, or more like resentment, like as if i did something. but the thing is she's the one that left? shouldn't she be happy if thats what she wanted? why does she sound like i did something wrong? After i received my stuff, i wrote saying: i realised how much i miss you and want u to know that if u chose to hate me, thats the weight u chose to carry. good luck. September - no contact from her or me October - still no contact - but the guilt must be eating her away inside My questions are simple: I moved on and got my closure out of it I just walked away instead of trying to push and push and push. I just chose to walk with my dignity. she knows im not a push over. is she just denying her true state of heart? is she feeling the guilt? i know her ****in girlfriends are a part influence of this breakups!! is she just to afraid to call or write? is she more them likely to come around after 4-5-6 months? how long does it take for the instigator of a breakup to realise the screwed up? is 4months long after a breakup for her to thinkandrealise anything? i'd like to believe this distance could make a better couple the second tme around. if i meet someone else and a relationship works then great, but i wouldn't mind seeing if my ex learned, matured and changed after this someone i need an opinion from women here i need the opinion of experienced women thx peace
marsbars Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 well I am not a woman, and I am going through a nasty breakup ie separation/divorce. But things have turned and we are at least going to try to reconcile. My wife and I went through a similar thing, not so nasty a long time ago before we were married. I think that if you have feelings for her, ones that are not angry or resentful and want a relationship go about what you are doing. Keep the distance, let her go. I am a firm believer that to let go and see if it comes back. It did for me a long time ago and is looking like it is going to happen again. Women are strange creatures and do odd things. I say let her be and live your life. Keep her in your heart and mind but only just there. If the feelings are mutual it will eat at both of you and grow. If not then things will just dissolve and life will go on.
norajane Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 There's not enough information. What caused the fight that led to the break-up - what did you fight about? How was the relationship up to that point - was everything great, or were there frequent fights, jealousies, issues? And why did she say she needed to find herself - is it because she's only 20 and wants to date around before settling down? Why do think she has guilt eating away at her - did she do something to feel guilty about? My guess is...she's 20. That's a very young age to want a serious relationship. If she hasn't contacted you, especially when you wrote her that note about missing her, she's not really that interested - all that facebook stuff was just immaturity and the aftermath of the break-up.
guinea01 Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 Unfortunately some people never do mature! It was nearly 8 years after my ex and I broke up, that he came back begging. And he hadnt changed at all!
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