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Felt ditched last night


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I can be a little stubborn and sometimes have a hard time in retrospect deciding if I reacted appropriately to a situation, regardless of what the other people involved say. So help me out here, I'll try to be as neutral as possible.

 

We were on a "bus tour" last night that hits several bars. I was part of a small group of about 5 people. Two good friends and 2 so-so friends. At the beginning of the night, we were all sitting together in the front of the bus but as the stops went on I wanted to mingle with the people in the back, so I was doing that and hooking up with the friends inside the stops. They continued to sit up front. This means we never entered the bars together b/c I had to wait for the bus to clear.

 

So we get to the last bar and it's a little whacked, so as always, I try to make the best of it. I use the boys room and hang out and realize that I can't find anyone of the group. So I go outside and find out that they went to another bar down the street. So I'm a little offended, no biggie, I call my friend and he tells me where they are and I meet them. When I walk in, I said in only a half-joking way that they totally just ditched me. They said that they didn't know I was on the bus even though nothing had been different for the last 3 stops or so.

 

So as it goes on, I start getting more and more irritated about it. My friend tells me I need to get over it. So after a few minutes, I just got up and left without a word and went home. I was pissed at the time. I felt ditched and the fact they they didn't act like they cared really bothered me. And I'm never one to be where I'm not wanted.

 

After a night's rest, I don't feel as bothered by it as I was walking home last night, but am still irritated. Does anyone have any thoughts on how I'm reacting to this situation? Am I overreacting you think?

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Well I wouldn't say they're the best friends I've ever heard of, but I don't see the big deal. You didn't stick with the group, and the risk of that is to end up without them at some point.

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Yes, I think you're overreacting. Your friends did nothing wrong here as you've presented it.

 

If I were any one of your friends, I would have felt that YOU ditched US. It seems more appropriate to mingle once inside the bar, not during the transportation portion of the pub crawl. I participate in party bus things every once in a while, and each time a friend leaves our group move on/car pool/taxi/sit with/whatever with other people, that's when I consider them to have ditched us. But if they're simply mingling within the bar, I don't.

 

And like GG said, in straying from them you took the risk that they wouldn't stick around waiting for you. If anything, it's almost rude of you to expect them to wait/chase after you while you mingle.

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I thought that might be the case. Thanks guys. :bunny:

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