bk2307 Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 Hi everyone. My ex and I broke up about a month and a half ago. I was fine for awhile while I got the chance to see old friends and things, but now I am lonely again. From reading other posts on this forum, it seems that it would be a really really bad idea to call him... so I was hoping someone on here might have a similar experience or some words of wisdom. Here's my story: I started dating a guy in high school and we stayed together all through college (we went to different colleges but still saw each other weekends). We were together for 6 years. Everything was great and I graduated thinking we were getting engaged soon. Over the summer, I started grad school right away. He wanted to enjoy his "last summer" and did so many things that we didn't really talk for 2 weeks. I was bummed because I was stressed and lonely and needed support. He moved to NYC (a few hours away) and started his new job, which started w/ training w/ other recent grads. My program is so intense, but he was the one who didn't have time for me because he was going out to bars all the time w/ his new friends. I tried so hard to keep us communicating but he didn't make it easy for me. Towards the end of the summer, I asked him to visit me because it was the only weekend I had available for a month. He wanted to check with his NY friends to see if they had any plans first. We compromised and met halfway at home, but it still hurt that he didn't want to see me, that I wasn't even his priority. He broke up with me after I finished my finals and before I could go out to visit him on my break. I was fine for awhile, but now that my semester is in full swing, I am just stressed and lonely, so suddenly I am missing him alot. I just don't get it. We were BOTH talking about marriage and all while we were in college. What changed that, all of a sudden, he had no interest in seeing me anymore? He told me that he still wasn't sure he wanted to marry me and might never be sure, and that he didn't even know what love is. I just don't understand why he wanted to throw everything away. We grew up together and have been through a lot and I never imagined my life any different. I haven't talked to him since the breakup, and I just wonder, is this what he really wanted? To cut off all ties with someone he is so close with? Thanks!
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